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pony and dog tails

2012-02-11T13:24:00.000-05:00

I knew this link existed somewhere. A simple guide on how to make a working pony or dog tail for that special animal in our lives.

http://www.aigando.com/Vet-toko-garo4-e.html

His site has a few other tutorials on a variety of pet play ideas.

Friction

2012-02-09T08:37:00.004-05:00

Friction [ˈfrɪkʃən]

1. (Physics / General Physics) a resistance encountered when one body moves relative to another body with which it is in contact

2. the act, effect, or an instance of rubbing one object against another

3. disagreement or conflict; discord

Thank you Dictionary.com

So we are all familiar with Friction, and other than the hopefully joyful friction we receive in the furs of Gor, what does this have to do with our beloved lifestyle?

You can not have Movement without Friction. One body must act against the other. One force must act against another force.
In this case a slave, and Master, must overcome their own internal frictions to obtain what they desire and want. The friction is our upbringings, our fears, our own internal dialog, our circumstances. We want to be good Masters, we want to be good slaves but we have that little internal nagging voice that we must overcome.
It tells us "we are not good enough." That "this is wrong." That "he or she is only using us for sex." This is not what "good girls do" and a thousand other things. This is our friction.
How we over come that is up to the individual. For me, it was more a matter of study and watching other's play. What did they do that was safe? What did they do that was interesting? Can you teach me that particular tie? Hold? Technique? I wanted to "hurt" my partner but in a good way...I wanted to mark her ass with my palm print but their is a serious difference between crying out "NO STOP!" and crying out "No Stop." My voice was self doubt and fear that I would really hurt my partner...I overcame my friction by education. Knowing and feeling confident in my abilities lead to me being a very good Top in RL. A decent Master online.

For the s-type, the submissive or slave, it's more than just education. She needs to understand what is happening to her body but also her emotions. Another example from RL...I was with a girl named Summer at a 3-day weekend event in the mountains of Pennsylvania. We played one day in the dungeon, her body hanging from the ceiling..I flogged her, canned her...she wanted and craved more, more and I was happy to oblige...then, I looked at her checking with her to make sure she was OK...her voice said "Yes Master" but her body language said something completely different. She was no longer standing straight, her arms were strained, her legs were weak...she didn't have anything left.

She protested coming off the hooks and shivered in the blanket I held her in...feeling that she had failed me and telling me such. I kissed her, held her and reassured her she did not fail me. I would have failed her and may have seriously hurt her if I didn't stop. What made her think that she failed me because I cut her down? As it so happened all her life she was told that "she was not good enough."

BDSM of any sort requires a few things. Honesty, with yourself and your partner(s) is where you start. You have to be willing to think deeply and long about your needs, what you want, how to obtain those desires. What frictions will you have to overcome? What will you have to learn about yourself. How will you communicate this to your partner?

It's not the easy path, but the destination...your true happiness...is worth the effort.

Movement

2012-02-04T08:49:00.002-05:00

Movement: actions or activities, either on a person or an object.

Keep that definition in mind, we will return to it.

Who holds the power in your relationship. If your a D-type (in this case the Dom, the Master) and think it's you then you need to think about that again. Without the s-type (your submissive or slave) to control then your just a lonely person masturbating into the sheets.

The s-type gives you control over them in a voluntary fashion. Even though we real life "Goreans" may claim that our slaves are owned and their are no such things as "safe words" we also understand that our girl is precious and valuable to us. That her submission really and truly is a gift to us.

She gives us to body, her trust and, if we are truly lucky, her heart and soul. She gives us everything in the hope that we will not push her to far, hurt her to much and give her direction and security.

Now lets return to that definition for a moment. We act upon them. We perform actions upon them to obtain a desired result. We may flog them as punishment, we may flog them to obtain a orgasm out of them. We move them in a direction that we want them to go.

However...remember the sheets?

A s-type can only move at a certain pace. We can push, we can prod. We can drag her kicking and screaming by the leash around her neck. The truth is this. She has to be willing and able to get to point B from point A in her own time. She has to be ready and willing to accept what fate you have planned for her.

Long time readers of this blog know what it boils down to. Communication. You need to talk things out, discuss and analyze. Yes, I understand it might be more fun to throw on a pair of silks and scream "Take me Master!". What happens though when your Master tosses you on the bed and decides to take you anally? What happens if your not ready for that?

If your relationship is either strictly online or if your a real life Gorean couple the truth is this. We D-types can only move as fast as the s-types in our lives allow us to.

It is our job to LISTEN to them. That does not mean that they are always right, that does not mean that they should be treated as a princess. What that does mean is that our slaves will get to the point we want them to be at. It may be a week, a year or ten years...but they want to be at the point too!

We just have to act on them accordingly. They need to act on themselves to face their fears and insecurities. We need to cuddle with them at times, and other times throw them in a cage. But without listening to them...we will never know what they need.

Answering a question...whip rights

2012-01-29T11:46:00.000-05:00

Anonymous said...What are Your thoughts about a r/l (Gorean with adaptations) Master handing off punishment of His slave to another Master? this would be for a real, i.e. not play punishment, for some sort of serious offense. Does Norman make any reference to this? Is there any kind of protocol involved? Maybe the subject of some future post ;-)?

That was all the way back on January the 18th. I'm sure the punishment has already been handed out in one way or another.

However here is my take on it. I can only think of one incident in the books were a slave owned by one was disciplined by another for some incident. In Hunter's of Gor there is a scene where a man is brought before Bosk, his head has been shaved by the Panther's of the Northern Forests. A slave girl finds this highly amusing and teases the man endlessly (you can read this excerpt here).

In the end Bosk gives the slave to the now freed man, to do with what he wishes. The girl submits tears in her eyes...knowing she is to be well used, and most likely whipped for her foolishness.

The idea of "whip rights" I feels comes from this scene. The problem is complex. A slave has no rights, no recourse. If her owner wishes to give her to another for a night or for life, what choice does she have?

But to take another property without his permission? To damage her? That is theft, and in either world is a serious crime.

To answer my anonymous friend's question then...I do not see any protocol unless you decided to have one. In SL once a slave girl of mine insulted a Free man. He frankly was an idiot and was deserving of the insult...but a slave does not insult the free. He complained to me. I spoke to her about her actions. She admitted to the insult and understood the fact that it was wrong.

I had her whipped then hung from a cross in the city square so other slaves would not repeat her crime.

If somethings happens in RL...and your owner feels a punishment is in order...what choice does the slave have?

It depends on the relationship of course! Do they have some sort of agreement on who may use and play with her? How will the punishment be dealt out? How will the punishment be decided upon? Will the slave have any choice in the matter?

In real life all things have to be discussed and considered. Another incident from my BDSM past may enlighten you...I was at a party and worked out a nice little scene where I was to cane a female submissive. Things were going well, her body reacted beautifully to my measured strokes and both of us were in our respective head spaces. Then another Dom walked in and took over the scene. Striking her harder and rougher than I was, after using her mouth sexually. I was thrown off by his intrusion and a bit shocked. She was trained to suck a dick when presented. It was not part of our scene.

Long story short I called off the scene, upsetting her and him. I was upset with him for entering our scene. She with me for messing with her head space! The host with both of us! One side of her ass was seriously bruised, much worse than what we had agreed on. In the end it was all figured out, he was never invited to another party. She never played with me again.

There are consequences for every action and both parties must be willing to accept those outcomes, it would seem to me that if given to another for punishment...in either world...all parties involved need to be able to accept and understand the possible consequences.

(note: my former slave did not die on the cross...but was there to be ridiculed)

Changes to the site - were getting educational!

2012-01-26T09:12:00.000-05:00

Over the next few days and weeks I'm going to be going through the links and getting rid of the old and dead ones.

The focus of this page is going to change a bit towards education. It's always, in my humble opinion, been geared to those seeking information about the Gorean way of life and exploring Gor - and BDSM - in the virtual world.

I think the focus is going to shift away from the virtual and more towards the real world. Starting with a question that was asked of me the other day. Right now however the dreaded reality calls, so we will return to this soon enough.

Maps and Directions - part 2

2012-01-20T11:39:00.000-05:00

In a way I wish I was just starting out again. When I was a young a man learning about BDSM was a bit difficult. After all not only did I have to run from the man eating dino's that ruled the earth...but there was also a bit of a stigma about BDSM. It was hidden, not spoken about in "polite" circles and in some areas of the country was actually against the law.
Plus I was raised in certain ways. "A man never hits a woman" was drilled into me from birth. I had these desires...desires that I could not exactly understand or put into words. I felt alone and a bit of an outsider. I liked girls, but wanted to treat them "differently."

I got lucky. I found the Gor novels. It may seem odd today, where BDSM and other imagery is commonplace on the web and even in popular music. During the dark ages of the early 1980's (Yes, I am that old in RL) there was no internet like there is today. No Second Life, IMVU or other virtual reality programs. What there was were brick and mortar buildings that held books. Not Kindles, not e-books but physical paper and ink creations. Tucked away in the Science Fiction isle was Norman's thin paperbacks.

I made a joke, you bought the book and read a chapter then masturbated to the cover. I bought as many of his books as I could before they disappeared from the book stores due to the controversy they created at the time. I still have many of those original purchases.

Suddenly there were people out there that understood me. What I believed and felt to be true...I wonder if Norman sparked my lifelong interest in philosophy and history? I know he sparked my interest in BDSM. It didn't hurt that the first true love in my life was also a submissive who enjoyed calling out "Master" during sex and liked spankings. Ah High School!

As I grew the books and Norman fell by the wayside. I didn't like the Gorean Chatrooms because I felt they were not based in reality. In college I met a few girls that enjoyed a little experimentation and didn't mind a little light play but nothing I would call serious BDSM.

It was after college in Charlotte, NC that I started actively looking for others in the "lifestyle" but at that time in the early 90's that BDSM was still an underground activity. I didn't meet any one, somehow I got "blackballed." I probably mentioned Gor to someone.

Once I moved to Pittsburgh, PA I found a thriving open wonderful community. Gor was still thought of as a "online thing" and not based in reality. I didn't even attempt to play for my first year there...I was watching, learning, observing and asking questions.

For the next several years I traveled to various events. Shibaricon, a Kinky Summer Camp in NY state, a weekend spent with my submissive in the Pocono's were she spent the time naked and collared with other couples. Had lots of dinners and laughs with friends.

My life path as a Dom was set. I now worry about those younger than me or are just starting to explore the "darkness" of their souls. To many times have I heard "my boyfriend/husband just does not understand."

While there are lots of good BDSM resources out there there are also to many sites that reduce power exchange down to "TIE ME UP AND FUCK ME!" I'll admit I've tied up and fucked many a girl it's more than just kinky sex. I enjoyed it too! BDSM is more than that.

I have hoped that a few people have read this blog and learned something from it. I'm not leaving Gor, I'm not leaving BDSM. I hope to train more girls. I hope to lead others down what I believe to be the correct path.

Walk with me a bit. I have a map...a GPS that might lead to a better life for you, or at least a few hours of enjoyment. Due to my real life commitments I can't do this in reality, but I can help those seeking out the next best thing.

That idea is energizing me.

Maps and Directions - part 1

2012-01-19T07:17:00.001-05:00

The idea of getting lost, of being without direction or destination has been playing a role in my life lately. On the motorcycle I ride it in not such a bad thing, in fact, it turned into a very good thing as my getting lost on back country roads lead me to a small winery and a 100 year old single family run business that also features a small museum. Good wine and interesting people found simply because I took a right and not a left.

Getting lost in your wants and desires is another thing altogether.

It does allow you to rethink and revaluate those things that are important. “Am I truly happy as a…” becomes a legit question.

Second Life has allowed me to jump out of an airplane, be shot out of a cannon, and experience what it’s like to be beheaded and hung…and to do that to others as well.
I’ve been able to explore things that I’ve not had the opportunity to experience in reality from the relative safety of my leather desk chair. It has also created deep and lasting friendships with some people that I may never ever meet in reality.

Over the last several months I’ve been adrift. I love the philosophy of Gor, the people and its cultures. I do not love what SL Gor has become. I felt there was no respect, no honor and no desire to even understand the basics of Gorean philosophy and lifestyle in a majority of people. This blog slowly evolved into an educational tool in order to provide some reason, some logic and some understanding to why we “played” the way we do. The books, of course should always be your first reference, but Norman could have done a better job – let’s be honest, he’s not a good writer.

I was adrift because I wanted to return to the “reality” that is a consensual M/s relationship. Long time readers of this blog know that for a variety of reasons it's not likely to occur in my real life.

How can you create real feelings in a virtual environment? It’s an interesting and tough question to answer. When does the avatar on the screen become an extension of the person you are? Are we exploring parts of our personalities when we play different avatars? How can I make the SL experience “more real?”

Despite my feelings of being lost and adrift, the answer was in front of me the entire time. I discovered The Manor in which I found like minded individuals. Some old friends who I thought were lost to the mists of time told me I was one of the reasons they came back (an ego boost to be sure). Another kajira who I respect stated that I was one of the few men she knew that created fear in her online during our “play.”

Then the other night I was asked to be a assistant trainer at the manor. Working with those who seek out a more realistic experience and who may have a bit of RL experience as well. I’m honored, shocked and amazed that I was asked. This old dog just might know what the hell he’s doing after all!

A few comments here on the blog helped me determine my course moving forward. I love to teach, to work with those that are new to our particular lifestyle. I love to train both Dom’s and subs, and to stop bad habits from developing and expose onlineisms to the bright light of truth. I am also happiest when I have a Kaira to call my own.

So I think I'm back, teaching...training...working with others. That's were I needed to be from the beginning and it's nice to know that others want me to help them out.

Definitions and Decisions

2012-01-10T07:33:00.000-05:00

Lately it seems that I'm bumping into a lot of people I used to know, both in my virtual life and in my real life. Former lovers, former partners and even an odd friend or three.

This has put me into a reminiscing mood as warm rose-colored memories come flooding back.

It's also been a little wake up call for me. The other day I had a little bit of a fight with one of my old friends. It was about the approach I took with her and how she wanted to be treated differently. At the time however she didn't have the experience or the vocabulary to explain herself, but what it boiled down to was that she wanted me to have full control over over. Where I was approaching our relationship from a different background.

At that time in our lives, she wanted to be a slave. Or in other words, the classic dictionary definition: 1. (Law) a person legally owned by another and having no freedom of action or right to property

2. (Business / Industrial Relations & HR Terms) a person who is forced to work for another against his will

3. a person under the domination of another person or some habit or influence.

In other words, a complete loss of control. Our relationship was rocky and doomed from the start since I was more of a "Top" at the time and don't believe it's possible to have "complete" control over someone.

For example, "You were never to have contact with your parents or family." would have been a perfectly acceptable order for her at the time, where I did - and still do - consider that crazy talk.

At that point in her life though, she needed and craved that control. Today she finds herself on the other side of the coin, being the owner of a small slave house up the road from me in Georgia. Her experiences with me however help her with the men and woman that seek her out. Communication is key, she has them define themselves and what they seek. They sit and work things out weeks in advance before they even begin a session.

I know who I am, what I am capable of and know that I do not wish to exert that type of control over anyone. In both my real and virtual lives I've come across submissive's that were more "slave" than many of those who identified themselves as slave were. It's a matter of how willing you are to give up that control to another person.

One of the reasons I consider myself Gorean is because BDSM lacks a central philosophy. I may be "kinky" but what does that mean? Ropes, Candles, Knives, Blood play, Water play, Humiliation...all are part and parcel of the BDSM experience, but you may enjoy X and not Y. While the Gorean experience may contain many BDSM elements (such as branding, whipping, and cages) how the Gorean approaches these things is already different as there is already a well defined protocol in place for the Master and slave to follow. A whipping is punishment for example, not meant for the enjoyment of either Master or slave. Of course, we don't live on Gor so the protocols are changed slightly as needed. In the end however we know who we are and what we want out of the relationship. The details are worked out as we go.

Of course, I don't practice real life BDSM anymore, nor am I sure if I would return to it even if I could. I feel I've grown beyond the need I once had to take a girl over my knee or to tie them up just so I could torture their genitals for a bit. Most of the time when I log into second life I drink virtual coffee in my virtual kitchen and chat with very real and very live friends.

I wonder if I have anything else to give the community, does my voice still matter? Do I have have the right to write about something I no longer am an active participant in? How I define myself now is different than how I defined myself at 21 and at 35. I am in the midst of redefining myself.

We grow, we change, we redefine what we want and need.

A little respect.

2012-01-06T09:19:00.000-05:00

I've been thinking about this blog lately. I love to write, I know that this blog has helped someone somewhere either online or in their real lives explore BDSM and Gor. For a variety of reasons my participation in Real World BDSM is limited, as followers of this blog know, and I find BDSM in Second Life lacking. However I do understand that many of us wish to explore and this is our only outlet, and is relativity safe.

The direction of this blog has changed over the years as I've grown and changed. I feel another change is in the wind. For example, the images I am finding on the internet are not so much about bondage and discipline but cross the line into porn. While I will be the first to admit that I've had sex with a tied up woman I worry that many who view these images will think BDSM is just "kinky sex."

When I read that 1 out of every 6 women in the US has been a victim of rape or attempted rape I worry that my espousing of Gorean philosophy and BDSM can be misunderstood. Yes, Gorean philosophy does believe that woman are "naturally submissive" but that does not mean that they are open to abuse. That does not give any man the right to abuse a woman, even if she identifies as "slave."

As the recent Slut Walk protests have shown, there are still dangerous myths and beliefs out there about how woman dress and the abuse of women.

There are dangerous myths out there about BDSM and Gor. One of the things that I love about BDSM is the respect and love that a submissive has. In the photo above you see a naked woman. She is standing straight and tall and being threatened. But the important thing is that she is doing so because she wishes so. Serious Dom's and Mistress's understand this. Without her submission we have nothing.

We make sure that after the scene that the submissive is warm, loved and cared for. After care is often considered more important than the scene itself, and allows the Dom and sub to reconnect. The BDSM community is wonderfully self policing, those that abuse or are dangerous tend to be quickly removed from the community.

Sadly these policies don't exist online. The journey one takes, either as a submissive or Dom is a long and perilous one. Even though we may just be pixels on a screen we need to remember that behind the keys is a real live person who may be experiencing everything that is happening to their character. For example, I was talking to an old friend, and kajira, of mine who told me that she was shaking when I branded her.

Why was she shaking? Because the idea scared the hell out of her, because in our role play we had created a perfect little world where only her and I existed. The hot brand would touch her skin and mark her forever as a slave. She also said that afterword, once the act was done the fact that I covered her in a blanket and tended the brand while stroking her hair was unexpected...and welcome.

I guess what I'm trying to say is a little love, a little respect goes a lot further than you would think.

Happy Holiday's

2011-12-21T13:48:00.000-05:00

From the staff here at Gorean wines - OK just me - here is hoping every one has a happy and safe Holiday Season. Free or slave or something in between I'm happy to call many of you friends. Looking forward to the coming year.

Toys of the trade

2011-12-11T01:33:00.001-05:00

These are a few of the toys of the trade I have. In the case of a pony or for pet play I've the cuffs, the collar, a bit with blinders, crops and a buggy whip, a nice mitten for sensations. A soft chew toy for the puppy to play keep away with.

Here is a close up of the pony bit I have. Sadly it's never been used, I've never found a submissive interested in that play. Although I do have a fun little story behind how I picked it up.

I don't even remember her name but we were out wandering the little funky shops and boutiques that are always found in the hipper parts of a city. We were laughing, chatting....and then she saw that.

"oh that would be so humiliating" she said with eyes big with desire.

Of course I bought it right then and there. Sadly we never went out again...perhaps she feared what I was capable of with it? One can hope that was the case.

One thing that I have used, although it does not quality for pet and pony play is my little dissection kit. With it's sharp scalpel and hooks, designed for cutting and poking and holding things in place.

I don't cut. I don't believe in blood play. However a bit of fear now and again is a wondrous thing. To have her in your control....

There are other toys not featured here. My floggers, ranging from soft rope to harsh rubber. Simple items found in everyday places (often called pervert-able's) like mousetraps and clothespins. The everyday wooden spoon, chopsticks and needles. My knives, still shiny and sharp. Each designed for one thing, then does something else.

Still more toys sit in my bag, collecting dust. It's not that I wish to give up on BDSM play...I made a choice to do so when my longtime girlfriend/sub was unable to reach her headspace due to an ongoing medical condition.

I love her still...and thank the Gods that she knows I need Second Life and other programs to "get my jollies" while still being true and faithful to her. It is not the best situation, but it works for us. I also know that the best scene in any BDSM relationship is where both parties are in their mutual "headspace" and everything else just melts away. Is this possible to obtain with a 3 inch tall collection of pixels?

Yes!

I do think however we need to remember what is possible in reality and strive towards that.

2011-12-08T01:47:00.000-05:00

I have to be honest. I was not sure if I was going to post this or not. Generally I try to keep my BDSM/Gorean life separate from my work and everyday life. I believe in the principles of Gor, I try to live them everyday...but my employers don't need to know about it.

If someone asks, I answer truthfully. A few have. It has not cost me a job, but at the same time I don't advertise my kinks either.

However a friend of mine does need help. I know what it's like to have an animal in pain and not be able to help them due to money.

I owned a cat named Breezewood for years, he suffered unduly because I didn't have the money to get him the care he needed or to end his suffering. So even if you can give just a dollar, it will help someone else not regret giving their animal what they needed.

That's Breeze there, not a greet pic but one of the few I have in the PC. Great memories however of him purring away. Towards the end he couldn't even move. If a dollar helps someone else's pet not suffer, then I'll do what I can to help them out.

http://waggingfordollars.weebly.com/index.html

Learning pony play

2011-12-04T08:43:00.001-05:00

Lately I've been exploring ponyplay. In a nutshell the submissive takes on the character of an animal. They may not speak, but must act like that animal. So for example, if she is a pony she must stomp her foot, whinny, snort and otherwise be the animal. She is not human anymore, and as such not treated like a human.

Now for the record. This has nothing to do with Bestiality and frankly I find that sort of behavior a bit sickening.

simple pony gear

Depending on the pony and the trainer the outfits can be simple. A simple gag to silence her, handcuffs to prevent the use of the hands and then a collar and leash to guide her. A crack of the whip to move her about or a crisp smack on the flank with a riding crop.

Plumes and headgear can be added. Every pony needs a tail to swish back and forth and these are easy enough to make or buy. Some fit into the anus, others to a belt around the gut. Harness and hooves can be added, and again the hooves can be simply made at home.

Years ago when I first became interested in pursuing a BDSM lifestyle, one of my first interests was pony play. I found the woman beautiful. Pony play requires the ass to be firm (I love a firm ass). The legs to be shapely; as they are given a workout going through prancing and stepping routines (I love a shapely leg).

Sadly however this type of play does not seem very popular. I can literally count the number of animal role players I've met in real life on one hand, and because of that I never really explored it.

extreme pony gear

That's the beauty of Second Life and other programs. I can get my "Dom" on, read about and actually practice what I'm learning. This type of play translates easily into the real world, the dressage practices and other events are taken directly from the training of real animals in the real world. Modified of course for the human animal. As I strive for "reality" - what ever that is - this form of play strikes me as being "pure."

As a Dom I'm enjoying the bondage parts of it, I may barely be able to tie my shoes but I can slip her into a leather harness and apply the tail easily enough in either world. As she prances about I'm able to work with her, training her to place her leg just so...to lead her about, to have her place her body into my control completely. I've always enjoyed giving the submissive a bit of humiliation as well, and having her eat out my hand or a small bowl on the floor gives me a thrill.

Unlike a lot of BDSM, this play can be less serious as well. Erotic as you brush her down and bath her, combing out her mane. It's something interesting to explore and might be worth learning more about and is putting me into a different head space than I'm used to.

You can read her thoughts on this matter here: http://anouskasthoughts.wordpress.com/2011/11/28/his-little-pony/

Ugly ducklings

2011-11-25T20:04:00.000-05:00

Editors note: I'll return to this in a day or so, I think it needs work but it's worth reading. My girl's blog is here and worth reading as well. In fact, read it first before reading this.

I've been working with the slave I simply call "girl" on the idea of Grace and Beauty.

I find the two interlinked. You can not have true beauty without grace and you can't have grace without beauty. I think...no, I believe that if a girl pays attention to what she is doing, how her body moves, where she is oriented in space...all that matters. She begins to look at her self differently and hopefully more confidently. In that confidence is beauty. The Gorean saying of "Exquisite beauty and absolute obedience" begins with that idea of grace in my opinion.

In the world of Second Life or other virtual worlds the only way to express this is through service, thus you get 1000 words on the simple service of tea. Which is not wrong in it's own right...often it is the only way a girl can express her personality, humor or servitude. Although I fear that so many girls get caught up in the writing of the words, they forget the meaning.

I have been lucky to find a girl that is willing to work hard in real life to explore her submissive nature online. She is working diligently to act with grace in her real life, even the simple act of making a cup of tea becomes a thing of beauty when done with grace. I wonder if others have noticed a difference in her in reality?

Her serve in SL was a bit less complex this morning....there was no need for it, her heart, her desire to serve came through in a few simple words. She realized the power of a well chosen word. The grace of simplicity.

Over the past few days I've been lucky enough to chat with previous slaves of mine about various things. One even hinted for my collar again after a extended leave...one thing I realized was that in my own small way I made them better. Better slaves, and better human beings. Call it the Master's ego if you will, but I feel that in showing them an alternative lifestyle, demanding from them "Exquisite beauty and absolute obedience" I have done my little bit to make their lives better and the world a little bit of a better place.

Yea, no ego there at all!

Returning to Reality - Part 2

2011-11-19T06:59:00.001-05:00

When I was active in the physical real world BDSM community I always surprised people. I was a Top yet many thought I was a submissive male when they first met me. Then they see me play and were surprised.

I enjoyed the sensations that I was able to bring to my submissive partner. I used a variety of toys, objects and my own creative mind....implanting suggestions of what was to come. I was quiet when I played, letting the world dissolve around me till it was just her and me in the room. In fact, if something would break that scene my headspace was fucked up for some time afterward. Call it Top drop if you wish. It was the intensity and control that I brought to a scene that surprised and amazed people. That calm little me could suddenly command even the most bratty of submissive.

When I was doing a very good realistic role play on Second Life I got that same feeling. It was rare, but it was possible to get to that stillness. The best sex they say is in the mind.

As I was sitting here writing this a moment ago I thought of a great scene I witnessed once at a party (in the real world). The girl sat completely clothed in a chair. No bindings at all with the exception of a cloth blindfold. The Dom, walked around her...whispering. Touching her with his hands now and again. She struggled and soon it became very noticeable that her body craved the touch of a man. Invisible ropes held her in place...again and again he would whisper something, observe, touch and whisper....again and again her body reacted. Then it happened...she shook in orgasmic pleasure.

Behold the power of the human mind.

I really had no intention of buying a new slave. I was perfectly happy talking to friends, playing with the girls at the Manor and sometimes just wandering about the huge variety of options that is Second Life.

So what was it about the beast I now call simply "girl"?

I read her BDSM checklist, a idea of what she liked and disliked. It occurred to me she was new, inexperienced but more important willing to learn and experience new things.

I read her profile, her belief in Gorean ways. She loved the philosophy of Norman, and in chatting with her...revealed a sharp mind and a desire to actually serve. Talking to her revealed a little more...and a little more.

She had no confidence in herself as a slave but that burning desire was there. Why didn't others see it? I've not a clue.

I decided to bid on her as a whim...then thought about it a little more. Slowly I convinced myself that here was a girl that was willing to serve and not just play at being a slave. The problem was that I could not be online when her auction ended and I knew there would be others bidding. Others that would not have her best interests in mind.

Thankfully I've got good friends. An ex-slave of mine bid on her for me, texting me all the way. Telling me how she was crying, and how the slave house owner gave me some money to make sure I won the bid.

So now I own a girl, one that I believe is willing and able and wants to learn. I want to teach. So another adventure begins. While we will be using the platform of SL to explore her slavery...she will be doing things in RL. She is already keeping a journal (I may link it later) and has done a few private things to explore her submissive nature. More will follow.

Returning to Reality - Part 1

2011-11-18T16:58:00.001-05:00

I never really left Gor, I never really left Second Life. I never left BDSM.

I just don't practice anymore.

That is not exactly true either. I have believed in and studied the philosophy of Norman, and although I am not a strict believer I do believe that there is enough of a solid and logical unpinning to be considered a valued way of live.

If you have been a reader of this blog you understand that I believe it's more than naked slave girls fawning over their Masters. If not, then I suggest you go back and read the blog, the books and pull your head out of your virtual ass.

My decision to leave Gor - or the Second Life version of it - was based on several factors. Not the least of which was my growing desire for something a bit more realistic. Due to circumstances, I'm only able to practice BDSM and Gor in virtual reality. Sadly the limits of SL and other virtual realities is that you can't really "feel" anything that is not in your head.

One of the advantages of course is what you can do. Deep and dark things that would be considered horrid and gross in realty are commonplace in virtual reality. Want to enjoy the taste of a cute redhead after she is slow roasted over a open fire? No Problem!

The girl of course is fine, the people who killed and ate her are fine. I'm 99.9% sure that if anyone tried this in RL the same people involved in Second Life would be the first to call the police.

It's not real.

That was my problem. Not that I want to kill and eat someone! But that the lovely naked girl in front of me kneeling and calling me "Master" was not really feeling it. She was not feeling the rough boards beneath her feet, or how difficult it actually is to maintain a kneeling position for hours on end.

I can't give up Second Life however. I've to many good friends there, but I can choose to do certain things. So I left Gor. I left the various groups I belonged to and just logged in to chat. Often spending hours in one spot chatting away in IM.

In one of those chats someone suggested I visit the Manor. The idea behind the manor is a simple one. It's a mansion where RP is not allowed. The submissive was expected to get away from the RP and react as if they were in the room with the Dom. Limits are strictly enforced. There is no open membership, you were invited in.

My interest was peaked. I believed in what was being attempted.

I watched, I learned...and yes, no matter how good you think you are you can always learn more. I played. I felt that odd feeling of having her place her trust in me all over again.

My heart skipped a beat as I messed up a scene with a girl by violating one of her hard limits. She called off the scene. She knew exactly what I had planned for her and she didn't like it...and rather than play it out...she called it off. She felt uncomfortable.

Instead of being upset or fading to black or logging off...she safeworded. Exactly what she would have done in RL. I did exactly what I'm supposed to do. Wrapped her up in a blanket, calmed her, took care of her. I was carried away in the play, I felt her there in front of me....trembling.

Even though the scene was a bust, it was a wonderful experience. People striving to break beyond the role play and get to the emotions.

That is what I hoped to do.

Then a trip to a slave market. I was not planning on buying, My opinion on slave markets in Second life is well known. I had learned long ago to look beyound the perfect skin and hair and prim boobs of the naked slave. I learned to look for the soul.

I found a pretty soul...ready, willing, wanting.......

I bid. I won.

That story is in part two.

Thank you and goodbye

2011-08-30T18:17:00.000-04:00

I've decided to take a break from this blog for a bit.

The readership has been falling over the last several months, and my interest in things Gorean and in Second Life has waned as well.

My lovely girl, Rose, is off at school, when I'm able to be online the cities are empty. While I've loved writing this blog and exploring ideas I find myself pulled more and more into other interests - and you can read about those (mis)adventures here.

I will still return to Gor now and again. I am Gorean in the way view my life and my world, but when something becomes more of a chore than fun...while it's time to take a break.

Will I return? Who knows? But the one thing that I'm sure of is that I got a few people to think about their personal lives in a new and unique way. I'm sure that someone somewhere is coming out of a shell by saying "Yes, Master" for the first time.

That someone is picking up a book and reading and thinking and debating.

What more could someone ask for?

I wish you well.

Adam Zadeh.

Introducing "Life on 2 (smaller) wheels"

2011-08-23T20:35:00.000-04:00

My Blog dealing with my life on 2 wheels. A scooter related blog dedicated to the new rider. You can learn a little more about the man that is Adam Zadeh here.

http://2smallerwheels.blogspot.com/

Submissive? Or Slave?

2011-08-19T07:54:00.001-04:00

This little snippet of role play is taken from a scene in Second Life. My avatar, the wine merchant is dealing with a bond in one of the Northern Gorean Sims. He has mentioned his desire to buy a northern slave or three and sell them in the south.

KC: smirks as she hears that the bonds of the north are so desirable and puffs her ample chest a bit "bonds are a special slave Jarl"
[18:48] KC: "I am no Kajira...I am a bond Jarl"
[18:48] Adam Zadeh shrugs.....Do you wear a collar?
[18:48] Adam Zadeh: Are you owned?
[18:49] KC: "....dainty fingers reach up and carress the steel around her neck and she licks her lips "yes I am owned Jarl"
[18:50] KC: "do you own any beasts?"
[18:50] Adam Zadeh: If your Master tires of you will he not sell you? Or give you away?
[18:50] Adam Zadeh: Answer my question first bond
[18:51] KC: tilts her head slightly to the side and ponders "I suppose he would Jarl"
[18:52] Adam Zadeh: You are owned. You are collared. Your property. If your not found pleasing would you Master not whip you or worse?
[18:52] KC: "of course...have i displeased you Jarl why do you ask?"
[18:53] Adam Zadeh looks at her, his ice blue eyes boring into her.....he sets the mug down on the table.......
[18:53] Adam Zadeh: How is a owned girl here or in the south different? You are just property. It is best to remember that.
[18:54] KC lowers her eyes to the tavern floor, knowing his words are true..."Yes Jarl."

There are paga slaves,' I said, 'who must please their master's customers in his tavern. There are the girls who staff the public kitchens and laundries. There are rent slaves, who may be rented to anyone for any purpose, short of their injury or mutilation, unless compensation be rendered to the master. There are state slaves who maintain public compartments, and work in offices and warehouses. There are girls in peasant villages, and girls on great farms, who cook and carry water to the slave gangs. There are beauties who are purchased for a man's pleasure gardens. There are other girls who work in the mills, chained to their looms.'
She looked at me, frightened.
'Any of these slaveries, or any of many others,' I said, 'could be yours. It depends entirely, pretty Audrey, on who buys you, and what he wants.' - Beasts of Gor

In this form of slavery, which is commonly used for disciplinary purposes, or for the amusement of the Master, the woman is not permitted to arise from all fours; similarly she is not permitted human speech, though she may signify needs and desires by such means as cringing, and moaning and whimpering. Not permitted the use of her hands, save as a means of locomotion, she must also eat and drink from pans set on the floor, or, sometimes to satisfy her thirst, she must lap the water permitted to her from puddles or lick pillages from the tiles; too, it is no uncommon to chain her near her master's feet, while he dines, that he may, if he wishes, throw her scraps of food. She will also be taught tricks, through which paces she may be put for the entertainment of her master's guests, such things as begging, lying down, rolling over, and fetching his sandals in her teeth. And, needless to say, when her master wishes to use her sexually, it will be a position common to the she-quadruped - Gaurdsmen of Gor.

I have picked these quotes and used the brief example of role play above to make a point. If you choose to be a slave, either in Real Life or Second Life, you are giving up control. You are property. Plain and simple. That does not mean you will not be loved, cared for and desired. But you are property.

While I've no doubt about how special woman are and how important the woman in both my real and second lives are...those that are slave, in the Gorean mindset at least, are beasts. Pretty little branded animals.

A slave by definition owned by another, giving up all choice and having no rights or freedom.

Submission however is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of dominance of one individual over another in an erotic or lifestyle context. This is a much better definition of the Gorean lifestyle in a modern sense. We consent to play a role of slave for a few hours, we take power over someone else for a brief time. At the end of the night though that person goes back to go back to their family, their hubby, wife or whatever...online relationships are bound to end.

Unless your willing and able to take that next step and explore submission in reality, to share your life with that person...to call them on the phone, or communicate over the computer using camera's...or meet them in the real world. This of course, is fraught with it's own worries and pitfalls. You may not be that handsome strong Master in reality. You may not be that hot desirable slave your Master thinks you are.

This is NOT what I signed up for!

Plus...lets be honest, doing this full time in reality is a different mindset from a few hours on the computer at night. It's a different world entirely and what may have seen fun online might be abuse in reality.

Entering into any sort of real life relationship takes communication and being sure both parties needs are being met. Just like any "vanilla" relationship. Knowing what you want and being able to communicate that is key. Are you willing to make sacrifices, either as Master or slave? Masters sacrifice just as much as their slaves do, although it's often in a much more subtle way...if all you expect is to receive blow jobs on command and be served breakfast in bed every morning don't be surprised when your "slave" walks out the door. You have failed her.

If your "slave" how much are you willing to give up? Will you let him pick your clothes although he has no fashion sense? I once delightedly picked mismatched shoes for a slave of mine to make a point...that I had no desire to pick her clothes out for her.

What are you willing to give up? What is important to you?
In the end I suppose a Master/slave relationship is just as hard to maintain as a normal everyday relationship. At least online we have the support of Gorean society. She is expected to behave in certain ways because of her status in society.

Sometimes I think it would be so much simpler if we lived in such a society.

I'm not a whore!

2011-08-12T11:33:00.000-04:00

A couple of days ago there was a really interesting article about the Sugar Daddy/sugar baby relationship in the Huffington post. It dealt with the fact that do to low wages, high unemployment and stupendous student debt how many young woman are turning to sex work to pay off debt or even pay the rent.

Where as some may scream about prostitution and others about the problems that would lead a young woman to spread her legs for money, and indeed these problems do need to be addressed, the truth of the matter is much more complex. I personally see it as woman just being their practical selves and doing what needs to be done in order to survive.

Now what does this have to do with Gor?

Nothing really, but if you spend enough time online how we see ourselves changes. The women interviewed for the article did not see them selves as "whores" and most were planning on only doing this for a short time; just long enough to meet their needs and then move on. Indeed the article stated that most relationships lasted only 3 to 4 months.

Their was a strict separation between the "sugar baby" and the real life person they were. We see this a bit in online Gor as well. Unless you are truly exploring Gor in your day to day life you are only playing a role. The question becomes, for me at least...when does that line get crossed? I have spoken to many slaves who find they either discover their submissive side or finally admit they have one. Many Masters who admit they find themselves being more self confident, not only around the other sex but in their day to day lives as well.

The Gorean Forums and other boards have had many a discussion about how Gor has either effected the way we view the world or ourselves in it. Their are many sides and desires to the individual that need to be tended to and explored and the online environment is a safe way to do this. Everyone reaches the same conclusion. You change after a while.

Now the girls that are doing this are creating persona's and lives separate from their "real selves" in order to pay off debt or survive in tough economic times. They are doing nothing wrong and history is full of cases where woman have turned to this form of work.

What concerns me, is when the persona starts to take over the person. Is the young girl going to see her self differently in six or twelve months? Will the access to easy funds, some of the meetings supposedly go for $1000 US or more, lead to even more "work."

How will she see herself moving forward? It's one thing to say "I'm submissive or a slave at heart" and another to say "I sell myself to strangers for money." It's all a matter of self image moving forward.

When I was a younger man I spent a lot of time, and money, in strip clubs. I can think of a few instances where the dancer started off just to pay a debt or support her child. Then ended up selling herself because men offered her a bit more money. A girl could make 300 or more dollars for a night of work stripping. The same amount of money laying on her back for an hour or two. I saw more than one girl change over time.

Now personally I know of no girls doing this, or even any that are considering it. I however have concerns, for I know of friends that have daughters in school, looking for jobs or who have massive debt. Would it be so hard from them to make the choice to lay flat, close their eyes and think of England?

Online we play roles that meet a need, Master or slave. We run businesses, we created a world where the consequences of our actions, while sometimes brutal, are often forgiven once we turn on the monitor. The choices that we make in real life are much more serious and lasting.

I just hope the girls consider their choices.

Fencer of Minerva - updated

2011-08-09T09:29:00.000-04:00

Many thanks to Agamemnon Padar who alert me to this link. I would recommend using the normal safety precautions when downloading any program from the net.

I will also be adding a special section to the links page dealing specifically with Fencer of Minerva. It's not the greatest story or the best anime ever! It is however, much truer to Norman's vision than the horrid Gor movies made in the early or mid 80's.

So again many thanks to Agamemmon Padar.

http://www.4shared.com/folder/nW2IKlR4/Fencer_of_Minerva.html

The male pleasure slave

2011-08-07T08:33:00.000-04:00

A high price for a male is a silver tarsk, but even a plain wench, of low caste, provided she moves well to the touch of the auctioneer's coiled whip, will bring as much, or more. An exception to the low prices for males generally is that paid for a certified woman's slave, a handsome male, silken clad, who has been trained to tend a woman's compartments - Hunters of Gor.

The female slave on Gor, knowing herself owned, is usually in little doubt as to what can occur to her in her slavery. The next level of slaves is that of male silk slaves. These usually bring higher prices, on the whole, than female pleasure slaves. This, it seems to me, is purely a matter of supply and demand. Female pleasure slaves, given slave raids and the sackings of cities, are relatively plentiful on Gor. Male silk slaves are not. The explanation for this, I think, is reasonably clear. Gorean males seldom make good silk slaves. The explanation for the much smaller number of male as opposed to female slaves on Gor, speaking now generally of male work slaves, is also clear. First, the female tends to be the desirated object of the slaver's seizure. She brings higher prices than male work slaves. Secondly, in battles, often male defenders have been slaughtered or driven off. Their, females thus remain as spoils for the chains of the victors. Too, male captives are often killed. Female captives, on the other hand, particularly if comely, are usually spared for the collars of their conquerors. They learn to yield well to their masters. - Fighting Slave of Gor

On Gor, it is woman that are natural slave. As we seen last week, the male slave is more of an animal used more for heavy labor and who would have a short and often brutal life. A female slave is still an animal under the laws of Gor but her sex normally saves her from the mines and salt pits.

What would have been the purpose of a male silk slave? Certainly given the Gorean attitude towards male slaves in general his "jobs" would have been limited. They may have been expected to protect his mistress when out of the house, but again given the fact that he would most likely not have been armed what protection could he truly provide?

He would and could be used as a draft animal, pulling his mistress about in a cart. Generally however they are seen as the playthings of rich free woman, and yes they are used sexually. They are handsome, even "pretty" by Gorean standards. They are often muscular and manly, which may seem dangerous to the Free woman, having such a beast at her feet!

While a male silk slave would have several functions; and we see some of these functions in the Jason Marshall series of books one function that is hinted at is serving sexually. Norman even uses a male slave to lure a free woman into slavery. So much for the "Frigid" nature of the free woman.

Some cities have enacted "couching" laws, which in effect makes any free woman a slave automatically if she sleeps with a male slave. Often, a male silk slave is killed on sight when a city falls. For these reasons a male silk slave is a rarity indeed.

But they did exist, and there had to be a market for them. Norman often stated that Free Women are "Frigid" and reserved. Free Women are expected to act in certain ways and owning a male silk slave may set tongues wagging on Gor. Yet a Free Woman does purchase silk slaves, partly because owning a male silk slave would have been seen as a status symbol, and partly because it would have flown in the face of polite society.

Homosexuality on Gor, at least man on man sex, according to Norman was rare. Lesbianism, either forced or not is a interesting debate, but not the focus of this topic. As I have discussed before, I can not help but wonder if it's due to the authors own "hang up's", or the feeling of his publishers considering the times the books were being written.

A male silk slave however, could be purchased by a man and we see that here: It might also be mentioned, however, that there is a market for handsome male slaves which caters to rich free women, and, to a lesser extent, to rich free men. There is very little male-to-male sex on Gor, though it is not nonexistent.

So what would have been the main purpose of a male silk slave? As we have seen, they demand a high price because of their rarity. They were often killed when a city was taken, which is odd because they were slaves...trained and valuable beasts. Which, frankly does not make sense, unless they were somehow seen as an affront to the Gorean vision of "Manhood" or "How dare a man serve a mere woman!"

The male silk slave then has only one main purpose. Sex. It is his fate to serve either sex as their Master or Mistress see's fit.

Show some love for the arts.

2011-07-25T13:31:00.000-04:00

My lovely slave Rose is involved in this project in RL. Show some love for the arts!!!

http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/kalilaindivar/dancing-with-death?ref=live

kajirus - the lowly male slave

2011-07-25T10:32:00.000-04:00

It occurred to me that although much has been written about the kajira, the lovely "face of Gor" if it were virtually nothing has been written about the kajirus. Basically the kajirus is a male slave.

From Misha the Kajirus (see links)

For a variety of reasons however the kajirus is seen as fundamentally different than a female slave, which goes directly to the heart of Gorean philosophy. While I could not find the direct quote, I remember in Tarnsman of Gor a scene where Tarl and his father were talking about the number of slaves on Gor...this is where the oft quoted 2 to 3% of woman were enslaved comes from...and the number of 0.2 to 0.3% of all men on Gor were slaves is mentioned. That is 2 out of every thousand men, a much lower number than the 2 out of every hundred or so women.

Women are the weaker sex on Gor, both emotionally and physically, and are found to be desirable by men...growing up in the culture of Gor a woman would know her place is in the home, helping her free companion and taking care of the children if free. If collared her day to day duties would not change much but how she was viewed would...and how she viewed herself. Norman often wrote about how a woman craved the collar to be more free. While slavery is a natural part of the world to a Gorean, it is better suited for females than males.

In the Gorean mindset, for a male to fall slave is an insult. Not only to his city and caste, but to his very sex. Gorean males would rather die than fall into chains. In some cities , including Ar, an unchained male slave is almost never seen; there are, incidentally, far fewer male slaves than female slaves; a captured female is almost invariably collared; a captured male is almost invariably put to the sword. - Assassin

kajirus V by Hellpleasure

Often times a male slave would be nothing but a criminal, a debtor or some other poor soul that finds himself in the wrong place at the wrong time. A male slave has little value and is often treated badly. When we see male slaves in the books, they are often doing the lowest of work, Many cities use male slaves for some of the more unpleasant labor in the cities, such as in the refuse pits or cleaning the public baths. Some slaves may pull wagons in teams. Most men work on chains with other slaves - Magicians of Gor

Some work, although physical in nature, is seen as being above a mere slaves status, they would not work on the defensive walls of the city, or in the construction of roads or buildings...interestingly enough, the only city that used slaves in the building of these things was Port Kar, a city universally despised by Goreans until it "found it's home stone" and then it rebuilt much of its defenses using free men.

In Priest Kings of Gor we have a brief line of how a group of male work slaves were blinded at the foot of the Sadar mountains, while not explicit in why; it is safe to assume that the holy land of the Sadar was not for the eyes of a mere kajirus. No example of a female slave being blinded is given, in fact, they are sold at the foot of the Sadar itself. So we have several examples of the status of a kajirus and how they are viewed and there are several other quotes that deal with this very subject.

A slave is a slave in Gorean eyes, an animal. Something to be used for a particular task and how they are treated depends on that task. A female slave working in the house might be treated as a member of that household, a paga slut could find her true Master and be bought. A male slave is nothing but an animal and his tasks and status in Gorean society reflect that view much more clearly.

Misha the Kajirus writes a wonderful blog about being a male slave on Gor, although his experiences differ from the books considerably. He is more of a pleasure slave...and that is the next column.

Fencer of Minerva - a new link.

2011-07-19T09:55:00.001-04:00

Well, how cool is this! Part one of Fencer of Minerva. Thanks to Caliway from the Gorean Forums.

A Gorean History lesson - slavery.

2011-07-19T09:49:00.000-04:00

Over the past week or two I've been spending less and less time on Gor. I need to do this sometimes, it recharges the batteries and allows me to approach a world and a philosophy I love with new vigor. Sometimes just stepping back allows me to look at things with a new and different light.

For example, why slavery anyway?

Goreans are, if the books are to be believed, are humans from various cultures from Earth. Transported over several thousands of years to the planet Gor as some combination zoo and long term experiment by the Priest Kings. Slavery is not something new to Earth, references to it appear in the ancient Babylonian code of Hammurabi...which in case the geek in you does not know is the oldest known legal document in the world.

How slavery started on Earth is lost in the mists of time, Norman gives us a brief origin story at least on how slavery came about. In this case their is physically a war between the sexes. The woman lose the war and are about to be slain, however the Priest Kings intervene and make all the women beautiful and desirable to men. Saving their lives however came with a price, as women would always be slave to men. Another legend alludes to Norman's love of Greek and Roman history and myths as a shield is described as having an engraving of a group of satyrs capturing a group of Amazons.

A third legend deals with the famed slave block in Mighty Ar itself; the Curulean. Carved into the block itself is the figures of nine slave girls. Said to be the first nine slave girls ever sold in Ar, wearing rope collars and used to breed sons for the men of Ar which in interesting for it indicates that slavery in Ar at least predates metal working and slave wine itself.

Now we know the stories, but not the why. Gorean slavery is unique in that it is almost exclusively female. The third legend gives an obvious answer. Sex. Yet as slavery evolved on Gor a child born of a slave was slave. Slave wines were developed to prevent the unwanted pregnancy of a slave.

While a kajira is certainly used for pleasurable sexual pursuits, she is also used for other duties. She is a cheap labor force and we see this throughout the books, as girls work in the taverns, mills, farms and other places. Male slaves, or kajirus, also exist but we see male slaves on Galley ships and in mines, doing heavy labor that a female would not be able to do.

A kajirus would have a short and brutal life on Gor. Due more to the work he would have been expected to do and the fact that he would have most likely been a fallen warrior or a debtor. Someone that fell out of grace of his caste and city...to have been without honor. Due to cultural reasons, a man would rather die than be slave. Norman indicates perhaps one in 1000 or more men is slave. When he does have male slaves they strive for freedom and some even take up arms against their Masters, something only rarely shown in a female slave. While a kajira may have been property, they still had some honor...a male slave would not even have that so in a perverse way, the female slave is held in higher regard than the male slave.

In one sense it does make sense to have slaves. It's a form of cheap labor, and Norman gives us hints of this throughout the books. Male slaves, the kajirus, are kept out of sight of "polite Gorean society" and thus the emphasis on female slaves. We do not see females working the mines or chained to the oar of a ship, but we do see them doing fine work and traditional "woman's work" like cooking, sewing and cleaning. On Gor, just like throughout human history, slavery came about for a variety of reasons. However Gorean slavery was not special, it was not born out of some special philosophy or desires. Slavery is just a function of economics and needs.

This does not cheapen the individual desire to be owned or to own. The reasons why one may wish to be a slave or a Master are their own. What we need to remember however, is that; in the world of Second Life Gor, we are acting within the confines of a culture. If you desire to stand naked and chained in real life, be sure you understand your motivations. Will you truly be a slave, and work to keep a house and see to your owners needs? Or are you interested in only being "forced" to serve your "owner" sexually?

Knowing what you want, and who you are, is the whole point of Gor. While the origins of slavery may have been based on something as simple as cold hard numbers and cheap labor...how we react to the ideas and concepts of slavery affect us in a very real way.

Communication - that topic again

2011-07-13T08:57:00.001-04:00

It happens sometimes. Those of us who have a serious relationship in our real lives get into a fight with our significant other over Second Life or the amount of time we spend on line.

"Why are you naked and on your knees in front of him?"
"Who is she?"
"Your not really into that stuff are you?"

I know I've had these conversations, and although my girlfriend and I have have reached some sort of agreement, many have not.

Welcome to life in the 21st century where our technology allows us to talk to people instantly in other countries and learn about other cultures but has stopped us from talking to each other and actually thinking about why we need something so "deviant."

I know for me, having a woman naked at my feet is something I need. Something I want. While it is possible to "own" a slave, its not possible to truly "own" her in a Gorean sense. She may have children, a job, family...all things that will take her away from the prime duty of a Gorean slave, serving her Master. I will also admit that even though I consider myself Gorean, I don't think I would make a good Master in Real Life. You are responsible for that other life, I am still in the process of rebuilding my life after some personal issues. It would not be fair to either me or my slave.

I've spoken before about communication and about being honest with yourself. Communication not only between Master and slave but between Master/slave and their real life partner. Several friends of mine, on Gor and other wise are going through issues with the people in their lives. Some are kinky, some of "vanilla" but the issues are the same.

I highly recommend sitting down and thinking about what you need and why your on Gor. If your their just for role play that's fine, talk to your partner about that. Maybe you can do some real life role play in the bedroom that will open up new horizons.

If you have fantasies about calling out "MASTER" in the throes of sex, then talk.

If you have a desire to tie up your partner...well you know the drill.

That means being honest, not only with yourself but your partner. That can be scary.

We all come to Gor for a reason. Generally we come to explore some idea that seems taboo or scary. We know that being a slave is not just being forced into service. Being a Master is more than a blowjob on command.

If it was it would grow boring.

So we have to ask ourselves why do we stay? Is it because deep down, in the primitive depths of our minds we need something? We might need to be paddled when we are bad? We might need to be at his (or her) feet? We might need to be weak sometimes and let someone else make the decisions and guide us?

Second Life and similar programs allow us to explore these needs and desires in a safe environment. Where we don't have to express or think about our motivations to our partners. "I am Master." "I am slave." Our roles are defined, our desires will be fulfilled.

In real life it's a bit more messy. Is it worth the time to sit and think about your desires? What will happen if your partner rejects your needs? Either because they do not understand or share them? I can not answer those questions.

What I can tell you is this. You can put Second Life and Gor aside. You can go back to your "vanilla" life...but the genie is out of the bottle so to speak. You know what it is now to be Master or have been Mastered. Your world has expanded. Your mind has been opened.

Could you be happy without being naked at his feet?
Could you be happy without her there?

Either way you have to be honest with yourself and that is the hardest thing you will have have to do.

The fate of kajira - The Auction Block

2011-07-05T08:51:00.003-04:00

Over the last few weeks there has been a perfect storm of things I've done, seen and have read about that make this weeks topic. I've talked a little bit about slave auctions on Second Life before and I still have mixed emotions about them. However I was thinking that what we need on Gor is more slave markets and auctions, for two reasons really.

One: They would have been part of the day to day life on Gor.
Two: Slaves are property, property is sold.

Most if not all of Gorean kajira on SL either find a Master on their own, are "given" to someone after a period or time or "sold to them in a private sale." Having a public slave auction creates another role play opportunity.

I am curious about the lack of slave auctions on Gor, why are we ignoring such a major part of our world? Girls were sold in the books; on wooden platforms naked and with sawdust at their feet. Can you imagine what must have been going through their minds? A mix of horror, anticipation, desire (after all if they are found desirable the better chances they would be sold into a wealthier home....and the better chance to avoid some of the nastier places a slave could end up). Trade is slaves was important as well.

So why do we Goreans ignore it? I think it's a combination of several factors. Their is the jealously factor of course, when to many girls belong to one man or one house. Too many girls belong to one person can create serious emotional issues, ranging from "I don't get enough time with X" to "X has all the pretty kajira and refuses to sell them/let them have sex/let them out."

Another possible reason is the myth on Gor that slaves fawned over their Masters. While it's true that the books went to great lengths to have a Master find his perfect slave, if we read a bit more into the books we see that the slaves often suffered before they found the perfect Master. The idea of being stuck in a loveless relationship is a reality many do not want to face on Second Life.

Sadly, the biggest issue may be just the shear volume of slave girls. In the books, slavery only effected about 1 in 50 to 100 women. So while common, they still would have been rare enough to make a public auction an event. In the worlds of virtual reality, those numbers are often reversed making the chances of finding a girl that will voluntarily take your collar very good.

Why are their so many slaves? That is a topic for another article, but Gor does attract a large amount of experienced and non - experienced BDSM folk. Many male submissive's play kajira for what ever reason. Many are attracted to the clothing and sexual role play, where you are "forced" to be slut. Still others, with no interest in BDSM/Gor are attracted to the complex world that Norman created.

Consent is also an issue. Gorean slavery in the books was non-consensual; we all understand that we live in the real world. We are used to picking what to wear, where to go and what to do, for many, the idea of losing any freedom would be to much to take. A Gorean kajira, if we truly try to play by the books, is stuck with her Master for good or bad. She is truly owned by him and her options are limited. If not happy she can try to escape, ask to be sold or given away to another or end her life.

We all understand that we live in the real world, but to truly make the experience more real, more realistic it's best to immerse yourself into the world of Gor. Think as if you really are there, and that means accepting your fate and the outcomes of your actions just as you do in the real world.

But then again...we come here to escape the Real World.

The fate of kajira - Punishment

2011-06-27T00:34:00.002-04:00

I've already told you: the only way to a woman's heart is along the path of torment. I know none other as sure.
Marquis de Sade

Recently I've been thinking a bit about punishment and death in the context of Gor on Second Life. In Norman's work he never killed a kajira, although he indicated several times that a Free Woman who either failed to submit or a slave that was found unpleasing often met with that fate. I'm sure Norman was aware his work would be a bit "controversial" and therefore decided not to show, directly, a woman being killed. Punishment however was a different story as several Free woman and slaves found themselves being punished for some crime.

In the world of Second Life Gor I've punished a few girls. I've whipped them, hung them in dung sacks overnight and shaved them bald. I've also taken their clothes (a minor punishment) and names from them (which to a Gorean would be a severe punishment). Sometimes this is just role play, sometimes it is due to some serious breach in established protocol.

Punishment might best be described as the imposition of physical or emotional pain in order to, hopefully, correct some behavior. It must be applied quickly while the offense is still fresh, otherwise there is a chance that behavior will repeat itself. However, just like in the confines of a real life BDSM relationship, punishment only works between the parties involved.

The question that comes to mind though is how do you do this? You're punishing the avatar; a collections of pixels onscreen and not the real person controlling the avatar. Or are you in fact, effecting the mental state of the controller? If so, how?

To answer this question I went to the source, the men and woman that play slaves on Second Life. I've decided to withhold names for privacy purposes...but the answers were revealing.

Generally speaking, the slaves, both male and female, sounded the same themes. They wanted to feel the punishment was deserved. To be punished for no reason served no purpose. Many of them questioned their Owners in private before or after for clarification. The second thing that was surprising to me was how they perceived the mental state of their Master. If they felt he was angry in RL, and not just role playing anger, then the punishment took on a much darker feeling and as one girl put it, "I felt each stroke of the whip on my back as if it were real." How, and if they were able to get into subspace, also affected the submissive and how they looked at the punishment experience. This depended on the amount of role play before the punishment occurred to make the punishment itself "feel real." Punishment could, in fact, be extremely pleasurable if those conditions were met.

What really hurt, however, was a lack of attention, the fear of abandonment or simply not being able to spend time with that special person. Related to that was something I heard over and over again. That being punished was another way of showing that "Yes, my Master is paying attention to me." That lack of attention, that feeling of "whoa I really fucked up" was truly the most punishment the Master could deal a slave. Which to me indicates that the online experience, for both Master and slave, is more intense than originally thought.

What do I need as a Master?

2011-06-18T11:33:00.003-04:00

The lovely Dannah (from 1000 miles in Second Life) posted about why she needs a Master. Not why she looks for one...but "why she needs" a Master. It's an important distinction.

I've written what I've looked for in a slave, and have found what I wanted in two lovely girls - my Rose and Kira - but not the why! Defining that is a lifelong journey. Sometimes it can be put aside, hidden deep within you, but you can not deny that need.

It's good to be the Master!

Denying who you are is a sickness. Even if that means that you enjoy making a woman feel less than human or the feel of a leather whip in your hand.

For me...it's nothing really sexual. It's not even a negative. I need a woman for support and companionship. I need a woman to take care of me. I need a slave to put her trust in me.

At one time in my life I was fairly active in the BDSM community. I attended the various workshops and play parties, I considered myself a "sensual Top" meaning that I was interested in the emotional and physical sensations that I could bring about in my partner.

The "Turn On" for me was not the whip in my hand or holding the blade against her skin, but that she was trusting me enough to do so. I always sat and negotiated a scene with a someone I had never played with, but rarely with those who knew me. They trusted me not to cut them with the knife. They trusted me not to rape them, they trusted me to keep them safe as they stood there....shivering and naked and with a look on their face that combined fear, pleasure and pain.

Soon I had a reputation as a Dom that would push his partner(s) to the very limit.....teetering on the brink...but would never let them fall off that cliff. Which, in the world of BDSM, is a very good reputation to have if you wish to be taken seriously.

For a variety of reasons, I left the BDSM world. As I sit here typing these few words I realize how much I miss it. It's been nearly four years since I have played an active role.

I came to the world of Second Life because that part of my life was missing and has to be met somehow. BDSM in SL is a pale comparison, yes it has all the trappings; the cages, whips, ropes and chains...but none of it is real. I miss the look on her face, the quiver of her body. No amount of avatar physics will replace the smell of fear, the touch of leather or her cries of willingness to give more.

Many believe that the best sex happens on in the mind, and this may be true. I have done scenes in Second Life that have excited me and my partners, been amazing and wonderful and I have done things I would never ever do in Real Life (Dolcett anyone?). Being pixels, we can safely explore the darkness.

BDSM on Second Life however lacks that trust factor as well as the physical sensations. I need a submissive partner that trusts me, not only not to hurt them...but to not let them fail. That will trust me to keep them safe and secure both mentally and physically. To allow me to take care of them and to control them. One that is willing to put themselves in my hands, knowing that I will possibly hurt them. Surprise them and tease them.

Someone that turns over that trust, their very life to me is a powerful stimulate and a responsibility not to be taken lightly. In the end then it is not sex, or the whip but something much more subtle and powerful.

Trust.

Changes to the site...yes, adverts for the perverts

2011-06-13T07:54:00.000-04:00

I've added a subscription service at the bottom of the page, which will allow you to follow this blog via various social sites. Now there is no reason not to get your Gorean Wines fix when ever you need it!

I am a merchant. So it only seems right to add a big blinking box for Amazon products. Although all joking aside, my dear readers if you can drop a few tarn disks on a product please consider doing so through this website.

I love Gor, role play, Second Life, BDSM, philosophy and all the subjects that this blog covers. It is a labor of love for me...but love don't always pay the bills.

Finally...I am opening up this blog to ads. I will keep it simple, keep it clean for the most part. I would rather open it up to my friends. People that make and design Gorean clothing in either world. People who make and or design BDSM and Sex toys.

If your interested you can contact me at adam.zadeh@gmail.com for information and we can work something out.

Reading the books...important or not? Lets look at Black Wine and see.

2011-06-09T10:14:00.002-04:00

The other day CNN posted a wonderful article about how mistakes and misinterpretations of the Bible have become part and parcel of our everyday lives. Now let me clearly and firmly state that I don't see John Norman's collected works as religion, nor do I believe that if you get one word wrong...for example in the Bible; Jonah was swallowed by a "Great Fish" and not a "Whale" that the meaning is lost. What is important is the context and understanding the metaphor.

The Bible is without a doubt a book containing much truth and wisdom in it's pages, and it is a sad state of affairs that most people have not read it. Or that they borrow brief passages to make a point. Thus it's been used to justify non-consensual slavery, war, bigotry and hatred.

We "Goreans" certainly can not compare our books to the Bible. But we can fall into the same trap of misunderstanding the intent and context of a passage. Simple statements such as "Slaves always" or "Warrior's always" trip us up because they sound like they belong in the books. Such absolutes are never acceptable and that is why Norman sometimes seems to be contradicting himself. I was thinking about these possible contradictions and how they might not be that at all. I then realized how we might be missing some role play opportunities as well.

Since I play a wine maker and merchant, let's use the following quote to make my point: "Actually," I said to Elizabeth, "this is very rare. Thentis does not trade the beans for black wine. I have heard of a cup of black wine in Ar, some years ago, selling for a silver eighty-piece. Even in Thentis black wine is used commonly only in High Caste homes." - Assassin of Gor. Now here it clearly states black wine is rare and very expensive.

We go forward in the series and find black wine being served in the Tahari, Port Kar, Victoria and other cities. This at first glance may seem as a contradiction, in that how could black wine be served in such far away cities if the beans are not traded and the expense is so high? This is not going to be found in the common paga tavern of your average city.

One that Norman solves by making black wine special. It is served only to the rich and powerful in those cites. A house that has roughly 5,000 slaves at any one time, an agent of the Priest-Kings, the ruler of a city's home. We have evidence that the only way it is obtained is if it's smuggled out of the city of Thentis, at great risk.

I grinned, and washed down the eggs with a swig of hot black wine, prepared from the beans grown upon the slopes of the Thentis mountains. This black wine is quite expensive. Men have been slain on Gor for attempting to smuggle the beans out of the Thentian territories. - Beasts of Gor.

In Thentis, for example, sleen are used to smell out contraband, in the form of the unauthorized egress of the beans for black wine from the Thentian territories. - Slave girl of Gor.

So Black wine is special, not to be found in the cupboards of your common paga tavern. This opens up a variety of different role plays for both Master and slave. Does the Inn Keeper offer it at a price even though it may not be "actual" black wine, knowing full well that most of his clientele would never have seen it, much less have tasted it and therefore have a low risk of exposure. What happens to the Earth girl who, familiar with coffee and wants to be honest with her owner and her clientele? After all a slave never lies!

(Please note....slaves can lie.)

This role play, and others that are possible now because we now realize the rarity of the bean, open up to us. Suddenly you have smugglers, vintners like me trying to cultivate the black bean in secret to tap into a highly lucrative market. Guards from Thentis trying stem the flow, an assassin hired to kill the man who planned to steal the bean. Every possible variation...all because the books were read.

Norman actually was very careful in the plotting and the details of his books, careful and repeated reading shows us just how careful and precise he was. It's true however that his dialog does not improve with repeated reading.

Gor is a rich, highly detailed world that, much like the Bible, needs to be studied and read to truly be understood. My recommendation is to pour yourself a cup of black wine, settle in and read. Actually read the books, not note cards, and take notes. Think about what Norman is saying, or trying to say. Take what you learn with you into either the virtual world or the real world, maybe even both. You may be surprised what you learn.

The Gorean Male Reviewed.

2011-06-02T08:39:00.002-04:00

Lately for a variety of reasons I've been full of that "poor me" attitude. Thank God I've two lovely kajira who told me, in no uncertain terms, to "be more like a Gorean male."

In other words, stop feeling sorry for myself and get back to the self confident guy I normally am. God, I love my girls.

That, however, started me thinking. What is the typical "Gorean male" like anyway? It's easy to point to Norman's books and say "Tarl Cabot is the prototypical Gorean male." However, that's not exactly true. We know he was from Earth. He was not always consistent in his actions and besides, he was the hero of the books and therefore could do no wrong!

Besides, Gor is a fictional culture and even if it were real, any good anthropologist will tell you that an outsider can only hope to emulate that societies mores and customs. You may never truly be accepted by it, much less understand it. Thus, Tarl seems a bit too weak in the beginning of the series and by the end, a bit too harsh. I've already looked at some of the motivations a Gorean male would have for acting a particular way here.

What I'm curious about is what is the soul of a Gorean male? So I turned to my friends at the Gorean Forum website and on Fet Life to find out what character traits do Gorean men share?

Self-confidence for one thing. He is sure of his actions and beliefs. A strengh of his convictions, he is sure what he is doing is the right course of action. He is also strong physically, but that is due not to spending hours in the gym but in the fields and toiling to learn how to defend what is his.

What many would call "traditional" values kept being mentioned as well. These are an emphasis on family and tradition, values such as honor and loyalty. An understanding of the role of the man as the leader, the hunter, provider, the head of the house etc. Gorean society is one where the family structure and economics can still breed strong personalities.

As someone mentioned, these are values found still in the Southern part of Europe and in the American South. Values to be embraced certainly and values that can be adopted by any man, not just those of us that call ourselves Gorean. As Rose (formally my slave Adira) pointed out, men like this can be from anywhere in the world depending on the family dynamic. That is true, but the "Culture" of the American south and of Southern Europe enforces this type of behavior, where as the culture in a place like New York city for example may not.

So we return to the original question, and I find myself wondering if there is no such thing as a Gorean male. Just males who understand their place in the world and strive to be good, honest, strong men. The world needs more of them. These are ideals to strive for.

A wise man by the name of Zarius posted the following on Fet Life and I feel this is a good listing of some of those traits that all good men, not just Gorean men possess.

Code of a Gorean Master (or men in general)

Honor: in all things
Dominance: of himself and of those who depend on his command
Consistency: in his dealings with freepersons and slaves
Strength: to not be swayed from his principles
Self-assured: not dependent on others for approval
Curiosity: to delve into the individual
Wisdom: to understand what curiosity has discovered
Maturity: to understand, but not misuse, the power of his Mastery
Sensitivity: to have interest in, and to listen keenly for the concerns and issues of his slave
Compassion: to hear the true feelings of his slaves, and to deal fairly with issues raised, within the confines of his principles and command
Accountability: to accept the responsibility for the behavior of his slave and himself--to accept responsibility for the safety and security of his slave.. and to deal honorably with any issues that arise for either concern
Courage: to stand up for principles and honor.. and, courage to stand and admit a mistake when he recognizes one has been made
Advocate: for the endurance and prosperity of Gorean culture
Ally: standing shoulder to shoulder with other advocates of Gor
Mentor: to others who have need of his example

True Doms of Second Life

2011-05-31T08:17:00.001-04:00

Something I came across this morning that I thought I would share. I'm working on something that should be ready in a day or two, in the meantime enjoy something a little silly and see if it reminds you of anyone you know.

Comedy and Gor

2011-05-23T08:08:00.001-04:00

The other night I attended a function at the Gorean University. The debate was friendly and lively, and although I personally did not learn anything new the topic took a surprising turn.

It turned to humor and slavery.

At one time it seems the Gorean University taught the girls how to use humor in their serves, yet somehow the Masters complained and this class was dropped. I think that is a shame.

Now if a slave was a butterfingers ALL the time I would get a bit upset with her and I'm sure I would rename her "Sleen feed." But a one time only trip by the slave in the kitchen which results in me covered in flour? I can accept that.

Or, and this is a true story, once I asked a girl to serve me blackwine as sweet as her kiss...she put 42 spoonfuls of sugar in it. I kissed her, then told her to add one more to the slurry before me! This role play sticks in my mind because it was different, fun and unexpected.

Or another time, when I wondered into a tavern in a far off city only to find a very fat girl dancing, emoting about the sweat flying and the rolls of fat jiggling about. While some of the free insulted her, she carried on...so I fell in love and started an RP where I must buy her and have her in the finest silks, only to be told that the silk would stick to her body.

My point to all this? Gor is to diverse not to have a little fun. If the planet did exist, do you not think the girls would giggle over the lack of a Master's prowess? "Master's dagger is rather more of a pen knife."

Warning girls, never say that to his face!

Don't you think that something would happen in a tavern that would set the whole place rocking with laughter?

Gor is a harsh world and I'm sure that the Goreans, who embraced life and love, would have enjoyed a good joke. Personally I would rather live in that world than the cookie cutter place that Gor has become.

A question of honor.

2011-05-19T07:31:00.003-04:00

Over the past two weeks or so I've been "on Earth" so to speak. I've spent time moving, visiting family and catching up with old friends. I also got into a horrible fight with my long time girlfriend. A fight which ended up with me throwing my friend, and slave, under the proverbial bus for no other reason than it would end the fight. For that I am sorry.

It bothers me for a lot of reasons, am I that afraid to love the woman I have loved and been with for over six or seven years now do to a simple harmless text? I know that the woman I fell in love with all those years ago was a swinger interested in polyamory. I also know that three years ago she had a brain injury that resulted in her being unable to control her emotions like she did before. So jealousy is something that is much more pronounced. I can also understand her being scared to lose a man that has stood by her during that time.

But, it's still not right for me to sacrifice my friend like that just to end an argument. I would not blame her if she left me and never spoke to me again.

It brings up a lot of emotions in me. I love my girlfriend, but I also love and care for the two woman that I call my slaves. We have not met, have only limited time together online yet we encourage each other, help each other and yes, support each other. Not only as Master and slave, but as friends.

So why did I put her on the spot? Where is the honor in that? Why did I take the easy way out? I call myself polyamorous and believe in many of it's principles, yet I feel I am not living up to that term.

Despite all my talk of honor, of dignity and trying to live by a set of codes and principles - perhaps not truly Gorean but inspired at least by the works of Norman - I sacrifice a friend, someone I care for, to end a fight.

I am sorry I did that. It simply should not have happened.

A brief hiatus

2011-05-02T09:00:00.000-04:00

I will be out of town starting Tuesday, May 3rd through the 10th. I have been working on another piece and should post it after my return.

Thank you for supporting this blog.

Exquisite beauty and absolute obedience

2011-04-22T16:02:00.002-04:00

"What are my duties?" I asked. "Exquisite beauty and absolute obedience" said Sucha. - Slave girl of Gor.

The other day I was running one of the girls through their slave paces, and when I asked her what her duties were she stumbled, but then said "to please men" which; as far as Adam was concerned, was an acceptable answer.

Lets break this down a little though. A slave has many duties and many responsibilities that must be met though out the day...yet Norman clearly placed "Beauty" before "Obedience". Why?

What exactly is Exquisite beauty anyway? For me at least, it means finding grace in all acts. The way the slave holds a bottle of wine as she pours...the simple act of walking...the way she prepares lunch. It takes on a almost mystical Zen like quality. Yoga and

Tai Chi teach one how to orient the body and are popular forms of exercise. However, what many do not realize is that you can bring this body movement into everyday life and to the simple things we do everyday.

Sweeping the floor, then, becomes an act of grace and beauty. Washing the dishes the same. Taking the time to notice how you do things; to practice grace and beauty in these things, brings out the inner beauty of an individual. When a woman is sure of herself, her actions and abilities, we say she has self-confidence. And what is self-confidence other than inner beauty?

Absolute obedience is a little easier to understand. She is slave. I am Master. She WILL obey. Of course, she may hate it. Despise me, curse me in her mind, and under her breath....she is human after all and that is what people do. But what choice does she have as slave? A whip or worse awaits her if she is not pleasing.

Is it really that simple? If a slave is only doing what she has to in order to survive, or avoid the whip...is that Exquisite beauty or just going through the motions?

As a Master, it is my job to lead the slave to where there is a blending between the two. I put her through her paces, encourage her, treat her well, when called for, but do not stay my hand when a slap across the face is needed. I will learn from her as well. Her weaknesses and joys and I will use them to help her become "beautiful."

And for her, the joy will come in pleasing. Maybe not at first, but over time she will want to give more and more of herself to me. She will fear the words, "I'm disappointed in you", much more than any whip or blade.

Each day, as the girls soul is uncovered, she will surprise both her Master and herself. Leaving at the end a slave...a woman who is confident in her abilities, wants and desires. She may be owned but she is happy to belong to that man that challenges her, makes her think and makes her crazy. She wants nothing more to please him.

It takes time, effort, study and a desire on both the slave's and Master's part...but in the end, what is left is worth the work. What is, at the end, truly exquisite beauty and absolute obedience.

"Why slave" by adira

2011-04-18T07:12:00.000-04:00

Adira is a lovely woman that lives in the Central Time zone, so our hours do not always mesh. She is the first girl in my little chain of two and has taken my other girl, Kira, under her wing to teach her not only Gor; but much of what it means to be a submissive. Her patience and understanding are endless and truly needed at times. And very welcome.

So here is Adira's story.

My Master asked me to write about why I chose to be a slave on SL Gor and why I kneel at His feet. This is a complicated question for me and one that I have had to think over for some time. I wait until the last minute to answer His questions because I am not sure how to answer.

Being a slave is a personal choice. For as long as I remember, I had sexual fantasies that revolve around me being in a submissive position; having to submit to another’s will. I have explored it greatly both RL and online. Right now, my primary outlet for my submissive tendencies is SL. I occasionally get a chance to do it RL and I enjoy those times greatly, but SL is much easier for me to access and there is immediate gratification. As soon as I log in, I know my place. My tag indicates it. My collar shows it. My clothing displays my avi’s body. It is blatantly obvious to any who see my avi that she is a slave. This is not always accomplished in RL as easily. There are many factors involved in RL that aren’t in SL. That is what draws me to SL. I can do things in SL that I might never do in RL for a variety of reasons. SL allows me to go deeper that I might in RL. That is a huge draw to me. But, what I want, specifically and why I choose to be a slave in SL is because it fulfills something inside me.

While I don’t agree with all the tenets in Gor, I agree with a majority of them. I believe in Honor. I believe in Loyalty. I believe that people should live by a code of ethics. These are things I generally get in SL Gor. Clearly there are people who don’t get it. That is why it took me so long to find an Owner I wanted to be Owned by. I didn’t want just any male avatar to own my avatar. I wanted a person who understood what being Gorean meant…all aspects of it. I was about to give up. But then I met Adam.

Adira idealized.

I honestly thought I would never find a Master. I had been spending time in the Gorean Hub. A place I generally detest. But I had no other options that didn’t have me force collared or owned by a City. So there I knelt. I saw Him and being the profile reader I am, I looked over His. He clearly had a sense of humor. But His profile said He had taken a break from Gor. So…why was He in the Hub? Being the bold type girl I am, I sent Him a message. We started to chat…He drew me closer to Him. I was struck by how much He knew and His thoughts about Gor and its philosophy. Our ideas generally meshed. That was a big plus. We were both about to leave, but instead we found each other. I think we convinced each other that there was something worth staying in Gor for. That is why I kneel at His feet and serve Him. My Master is an Honorable Gorean. He tries to educate and explore. He isn’t afraid of me voicing my opinions and encourages me to have my own voice. He listens when I need Him to, even if He might not want to.

He is a good man to be owned by, even though I feel I am too demanding on Him. A little over three months have passed since He collared me and through all the trials and tribulations, I am glad I am His. I hope He is glad He found me too. (Master's note: He is.)

Hopefully this answers the questions asked of me. I am not sure I can be any more concise.

Kira in her own words.

2011-04-18T06:52:00.003-04:00

I am lucky enough to have in my possession two lovely, intelligent, stubborn, questioning slave girls. Each of them has allowed me to glimpse into their personal lives and I love and care for them both, online and off. Our relationship off line is more friendly and less defined by the Master and slave roles we chose online, after all there are hundreds, and in the case of Adira - thousands - of miles between us, however I know that the girls are willing to do little tasks and other things in RL for me. After all, I am there Master.

Kira, who sees herself as the above idealized slave, is relatively new to the world of Gor and the concepts of BDSM. So without further ado, why Kira chose the path she did.

Everyone who chooses to be a slave does so for their own deeply personal reasons. I am no different. As strange as this is going to sound to some, for me, exploring my role as a slave/submissive sets me free.

It allows me freedom I do not have in my everyday life. I am able to be the fragile sensual woman I am on the inside. I don't have to hold back my feelings or desires. In fact, I am encouraged to express them. I do not see myself as weak of mind or body for wanting to allow someone else to carry the burdens I carry daily for me from time to time. I chose to be at my Master's feet because I gain comfort and strength from his strength. The desire to please Master lends itself into all that I do.

My life was once almost void of passion. I am not speaking only of sexual passion; I mean passion for life and all it has to offer me. Once I took the step to allow myself to be that which inside I had always known I was, my life as a whole took on a new light. I again felt alive inside. My life had meaning beyond being a wife and mother. Tasks which I would not trade for anything in the world, but had only moments of fleeting joy. I know that sounds harsh and I do not mean to make it sound as though I do not love my children. I love them very much, but how I experienced that emotion has changed. Most women today are trapped in what has become a societal norm, never really being allowed to be feminine.

They are expected to be like men, emotionally, physically, and in their actions. In my role as a slave/sub I am able to be the image of femininity; soft, tender, passionate, devoted and loved.

Comments, I get comments (Part duex)

2011-04-11T10:41:00.000-04:00

I love debate.

Debate, when done correctly and well opens the mind to all the different possibilities that are out there. Such was a case with a comment I originally received written about an old article. I was originally not going to post the comment because I found it insulting and believed the only reason the person wrote it was to start a flame war.

Then, after a little discussion with Maryanne who writes the wonderful "Tales from the Path Blog" my mind changed a little. The original article, which appears here, could be expanded on; as it does cover a lot a ground and assumes the reader would read the links and learn a little more. Plus, the degree on my wall is in Science. What makes sense to someone with a understanding in evolutionary biology may not make sense to someone else.

I also clearly know that I am not sexist. I've a deep love and respect for women, well I do believe that their are differences - both mental, physically, and emotionally - between the sexes these differences are to be celebrated. That the girls that are naked and at my feet are there because they wish to be there. I also know that I can not "be Master" unless I have something to Master.

So yes, they wish to be there. I am not the best Master. If Gor were a real physical place I've a feeling that if I somehow avoided getting eaten by a sleen that a slave girl would bat her pretty eyes at me and she be free within the hour!

Gor is a fictional world. Based upon ideas that were in vogue 2000 plus years ago and dealt with a lot of (what was then) contemporary feminism. A issue that the traditionalist Norman clearly had an issue with.

Today, what we call Gor is a weird mish mash of BDSM, "By the book" Gor and history and philosophy - including feminism. This is not the Gor that Norman envisioned. That's Okay. We Goreans tend to be traditionalists in what we believe to be true. The differences and roles of men and women.

However we also need to be open to modern influences. Modern feminism seems to be about choices, so the girl at my feet chooses to be there. She chooses to call herself "my slave" and she chooses to serve me. She can also choose to be a wife, mother, or a business woman.

"Kajira in Nadu" by Colanah

It is my duty to love her, to respect her choices. To provide her with guidance, training, discipline when needed. She is my slave it is true, but she is also my partner on this journey. Perhaps not a fully equal partner, that is the choice that WE made...but a partner none the less.

Where that journey takes us is part of the adventure.

I'm having both my girls write about their thoughts and emotions of being slaves and modern woman. They are two very bright, wonderful and creative woman...I'm looking forward to what they have to say and yes I will publish it here.

Look for it in the new week or two.

Comments, I get comments

2011-04-07T17:05:00.000-04:00

Recently I received two comments to this site. They were done by my friend Anonymous. Now I've little problem with Anonymous, some of the best quotes and truths are accredited to him....er, her. Whatever.

It's also my policy to publish anything posted to this blog. Good, bad, ugly or indifferent. I want to create debate in the wider community and hopefully, get some of you to actually think!

However I'm not going to post anything that is hateful or might start a flame war. Your welcome to post. Stay Anonymous if you wish, you might have that closed mind of yours opened.

I will not however publish something that was written by a angry idiot with a 5th grade education and no concept of the spell checker.

As for the rest of you, please feel free to comment. I encourage that you do. This month this blog will reach a new record of 20,000 unique hits and page views. We average over 600 readers a day. Surely you have something interesting to say, even if you disagree with me.

BDSM and Gor - Yes, that topic again....

2011-04-06T13:08:00.001-04:00

Take a close look at this picture below. Tell me what you think it is through Gorean eyes. Is it a gate to the slave pens in your favorite Gorean city? Is it a protected enclave for the Free Women?

Then look at it again. This time stepping away from Gor and using your normal everyday eyes. Again what does it mean to you? What is it's purpose?

Or better yet, is it a statement about how woman are treated by the modern world?

How we use something really depends on the context in which we use it. I rode horses for years, I have a buggy whip and several riding crops which I've used on both the human animal and the equine one. When I am riding and using the crop I obtain no sexual gratification of it, it is a tool.

Now, I love a lovely submissive thing before me...she raises her ass in the air and SWAT.

It's still a riding crop (a different one of course, I would not use those I use on a horse on my partner) and it's serving the same purpose. Yet what has changed?"

The context of its use.

I bring this up because John Norman himself has many of us in the BDSM and Gor communities talking, and arguing, among ourselves about what exactly BDSM/Gor is. Our relationship to each other and if, indeed they are related at all. As the I09 article laid out clearly, Norman has a very narrow view of BDSM and what it is. He also clearly states that Gor is not BDSM. Then he clearly confuses the issue again. From the I09 article: "Some men, I gather, dislike women, and enjoy hurting them. That makes no sense to me. Women are wonderful, and precious. It is a delight to own one; why would one hurt her? What would be the point of that, mere sadistic pleasure? I think we might distinguish between, say, S/M sex, or Sadomasochistic M sex, and M/S sex, or Master/Slave.

In a sense they seem opposite. Love is important. It is not to be confused with cruelty. Gratuitous cruelty seems to me uncalled for, and ugly, morally and aesthetically. Too, it seems unworthy of a true master. The point is loving and serving, and owning and mastering, not hurting. To be sure, the slave must understand that if she is not pleasing, she is subject to discipline. She is not to be left in doubt that she is a slave. It is easy to avoid discipline; she need only be obedient, submissive, and found pleasing, wholly, and in all ways. Sometimes a slave may desire to be reassured of her bondage. There are many ways in which the master, if he wishes, may see to this. I have written an entire book, the Imaginative Sex book, in which my views on such matters should be reasonably clear."

In Imaginative Sex he states the following as well: "Pain is not pleasure. If she should really desire you to hurt her, you should get her to a doctor."

"he would not want to hurt or intimidate a woman. He might desire to do so, but, on the genuine level of his humanity, he just would refuse to do so. It is not a humanly good or worthy thing to do."

"It is perhaps important to remind ourselves, though it should be unnecessary, that love games are meant to be performed only between lovers, usually men and their wives. Without love there is not even fantasy, there is only exploitation and degradation."

"The man who truly abuses a woman is not a man. He is no more than the freak who abuses animals or children. Fantasy can be delicious; but reality must, on the whole, be where we live."

Now this strikes me as a very narrow view of what BDSM is. Gor is full of instances where a slave is branded, whipped, starved or worse. Yet Gor is not BDSM?

In Norman's rather narrow view of the world, it is not. The cages, brands, holds and whips are ways to control the female animal, nothing more and nothing less. One does not take pleasure in being whipped, or doing the whipping.

In this way, Gor is close to the ancient Greek and Roman world that Norman loves so much. A slave has no choice but to be found pleasing and lovely. This is were most "Goreans" either online or in Real Life fail. We apply the modern world's desires and morality to what is a fictional world. In the real world we must deal with the reality of day to day life, Gor becomes a shadow of what it is in the books...it comes much closer to a "consensual BDSM Master and slave relationship."

Something that does not exist in Norman's created world, and outside of his narrow view of what BDSM is. Thus he is correct when he clearly states that "Gor is not BDSM."

The problem is that he has created a world that attracts those like me who find sexual pleasure in whipping or being whipped. In "slave rape" or just the simple act of having power over another.  How many instances are there from the books that a kinky person would recognize as "power exchange" or a "humiliation scene"?   How many scenes has he written where he truly shows his understanding of the submissive mind?

Gor offers those of us that enjoy this sort of thing another alternative to explore our desires and needs. While their are some that enjoy inflicting and/or receiving pain, they are a minority on Gor, and often move on to areas of BDSM that meet their needs.

BDSM is consensual, where slavery on Gor clearly is not, and much more diverse and wonderful than Norman's limited view allows. Gor, the way Norman envisions it is not possible. Gor, as a consensual and alternative lifestyle choice between adults is.   It may not be in Norman's eyes, but if you call your relationship Gorean and live within the spirit of the books...I believe it is.

Gor also attracts those that love to role play, history, fantasy and escaping the real world for a detailed, fully realized world where they can be something or somebody else for a while. While perhaps not being interested in BDSM in their normal day to day lives the concepts of Gor still attract them for what ever reason.

This diversity, this wonderful hodge podge of ideas and influences makes Gor stronger and yes...workable. It's a shame Norman refuses to embrace the very ideals that make his books so wonderful.

Updates to the site

2011-04-03T09:12:00.000-04:00

I've added a couple of links to the links page. Chuckleberry farms is owned in RL by the family of one of the girls I own. Support your lovely kajira and buy a bottle of good wine.

Twist of Wyrd is an interesting and far reaching BDSM/Gorean blog. Lots of good information for new Goreans and those exploring BDSM. I've not downloaded any of the free programs he's created so take the usual precautions.

Finally I have a long piece on Gor and BDSM planned in response to Norman's piece on I09. That will be posted in a few days.

His Master's voice - an interview with John Norman.

2011-03-23T10:08:00.000-04:00

Online Sci-Fi magazine I09 scores an interesting interview with John Norman. Like anything Norman writes or says their are going to be two schools of thoughts on this.

Personally I think he's biting the hand that feeds him.

Broken scenes

2011-03-20T09:18:00.000-04:00

If you spend enough time in the BDSM world your going to have a broken scene. A broken scene is when something goes wrong, it can be mentally, emotionally or physically. Sometimes all three come into play.

Case in point, several years ago my submissive and I were doing a scene where I was barking orders at her. I was not being mean but I was being a bit more aggressive than I normally am.

She was fine, her head was in a good space and so was mine...I reached for a knife, I don't cut but I do like to invoke a little fear. Everything was fine till I ordered her to her knees.

Then before I know it she's crying, shaking and scared to death that I will hurt her...she is screaming at me. I dropped the knife, tried to calm her and held her till the sobbing stopped. It seems that she was robbed and nearly raped at knife point years ago, and although she thought the wounds had healed...they didn't. Something I did brought back that horrible night. I don't know what it was till this day, but I learned an important lesson. You never truly know your partner.

Moving forward in our relationship she later asked me to re-enact that night, so she could control it and understand it. While I was tentative the second time, but we over came her fear.

I thought about that last night after a scene in Second Life busted open. Although there was a little part of me wanting to stomp my feet and yell "But I'm the Master!"

Several years ago, I read a short fan written story, lost to the ages now, about two Gorean slaves that were chained in such a way that they had to work together. Their Master used them both sexually in the end (it is Gor after all) and had them watch each other faces as he pleasured one, then the other.   I thought such a scene would play out well with Adira and Kira, the two wonderful woman that play my slaves on SL.

So I leashed them to the slave ring I keep in my house, one beside the other naked and started to pleasure both. Having them watch each other's face. Then I decided to add a little competition into the mix, although the girls seemed hesitant and uncomfortable I continued to play along these lines.   Sadly the girls stopped the scene not because of anything I was doing, but because they were uncomfortable with the competition accept of it and they were not sure how I expected them to act and react. They were unsure of where I was going or what I had in mind. Was it a punishment? An erotic scene? Did I wish for a three way?

Now as their Master I could have said "Curiosity is unbecoming of a kajira" and continued on, but the truth is, if your partner is uncomfortable with something why continue?   If Gor were real, then the outcome would have different...they are slaves, I am their owner and have no need to give them an explanation on my actions (the little boy in me wanting to stomp his feet).

Gor is not real however and my girls were uncomfortable so they used a safeword and stopped the scene asking for an explanation. It was within their rights and next time I will speak to both of them a little bit in IM before conducting such a scene. Negotiation is not about setting out a scene step by step but working out a generally accepted framework in which the individuals players act.

The next time having all three of us on the same page will create a highly erotic and charged scene. We will have fun, and isn't that what it's all about?

Scenes in either world can bust.   The reasons can be mental or physical or emotional. The important thing is to realize that it's really no one's fault. To blame someone, even yourself for a broken scene, is silly and childish. It's what you learn and take from it that is important. In this case, I learned that I will need to provide a little more guidance about what I hope to do. The girls hopefully learned a lesson or two as well.

Spartacus and Rome - How Hollywood can help us understand Gor

2011-03-18T08:31:00.001-04:00

Over the last few days I've been taken with the Starz Network Spartacus: Blood and Sand. It's a fictional portrayal of ancient Rome in the years leading up to Spartacus's slave revolt. It's violent, highly sexual and perhaps one of the best things I've seen on TV in a very long time.

As for how historically accurate it is, while I don't know. I love the crowd scenes in the arena. I also love how the series is treating the charaters. A slavegirl is a slavegirl, she can be raped or beaten and even killed if the Master whims it. It also shows the hope and dreams of the slaves, as they fall in love. Dream of freedom and, in what I think is a brillant part of this series, shows them accepting what happens to them with disdain yet performing the task at hand because frankly...what else can they do?

The gladiators are slaves, and are from a variety of tribes and lands, yet find themselves forming a brotherhood. They act under their own code of honor and dignitity. They find a way to give their lives meaning.

Now what does this have to do with Gor?   Norman based his world on Classical Rome, and to a lesser extent Greece. While it is easy to portray Rome as a out of control den of sex and violence, and both HBO's Rome, an excellent series from a few years ago, and Starz network do have their orgy scenes, it is much harder to protray family life and how the day to day business of this time may have been conducted. Both give us insight into what the ancients considered important. Family, honor, castes (or a brotherhood of those working and living beside you) and belong to a sense of place.

In the modern world that means that we must start placing our loved ones first. While you may love your husband or wife, how many of us are truly willing to communitcate with them? To work with them not only towards shared and mutual goals but personal ones as well? Even if we don't understand them?

Honor is acting in a understandable and consistant way. Yet it is much more than that, and is something I've discussed before.

Caste. We all have jobs. Many of us, myself included, have been forced by circumstance to work a job that either does not pay us our true worth or is something we simply don't care about.   I personally however consider myself a professional, and I will climb the ladder of my company to the lofty hights I once had with another company. My caste is sales and marketing. I am a craftsman, a developer of fine products that suite the needs of my client.   I am proud of the job I do and hold myself and others to a higher standard. Take pride in who and what you do.

So yes, these stories are fiction. HBO's Rome taught us lessons about family and honor.   Spartacus: Blood and Sand teaches us as well, lessons from the ancient world that can be applied today. If we listen carefully.

Both Rome and Spartacus: Blood and Sand are available to watch instantly via Netflix.

For once I'm speechless!

2011-03-13T22:04:00.001-04:00

Janes guide reviewed me. Freaking Jane's guide!

Thank you. I am humbled.

http://www.janesguide.com/general/viewlisting.php?reviewid=19723

Alone together - a review of sorts.

2011-03-11T07:55:00.000-05:00

Recently I read a review of Sherry Turkle's new book Alone Together: Why we expect more from technology and less from each other.   At the time I'm writing this I've not read her book, although I am planning on it. From what I understand however from the reviews I've read is that her thesis sounds a familiar alarm. People are projecting human qualities onto robots! We "friend" complete strangers on Facebook instead of making real friends! Teenagers are anxious about what their friends will think is cool and try to arrange their online lives to make themselves seem cool!

Well duh.

What worries Turkle, and I do understand the point, are people like "Brad". Brad, as a case study in her book, is worried that he will get confused about what his online life is like, and what his real life is like. He worries that he will post things about himself that he knows are not true.    What to her sounds like a existential crises, seems to me like teen angst. We all want to be cool growing up and be part of the "IN" crowd. Facebook is just another way to fit in, a "electronic pair of fashionable jeans" if you will.

However like the pair of jeans, Facebook will not fade away. It is part and parcel now of who we are.  We have to do a better job of teaching our kids to navigate the mind field of adolence, both the real one they face day in and day out...but also the virtual one.

Another interesting case which jumped out at me is where she went to interview someone, her roommate answered the door and told her that her roommate was home but inside her bedroom, the door was closed. The roommate texts her to let her know Turkle was there.   What Turkle sees as being withdrawn or out and out laziness I see differently. In a world where we are truly interconnected and "watched" at all times, any privacy we can get needs to be respected. Instead of breaking that privacy barrier, the "beep" of a text seems harmless.

Of course when your in your mid 40's like I am, you do miss the days of face to face interaction and actually talking to someone. The social cues we learn from interaction are perhaps being lost, as Turkle states in her book "These days, insecure in our relationships and anxious about intimacy, we look to technology for ways to be in relationships and protect ourselves from them at the same time.”

As I spend time on Second Life and other programs I think Turkle is on to something, but at the same time I feel as if her premise is wrong.   Recently I've been impressed with the outpouring of love by complete strangers for the deaths of two well known people in the Gorean sims. One suffered from cancer and the other from a degenerative disease which attacked his muscles. Online, he was able to live a "normal" life where he was able to walk, fight and make love. Things denied to him by the disease.

Both of these people touched hundreds of people lives, through their interactions. They opened up part of themselves to complete strangers and now that they are gone...they will be missed. Even though many of us did not meet or know the "Real" them, I can think of no greater honor than to touch so many lives.

I have also argued that being online allows us to explore parts of our personalites that lie just beneath the surface.  How many times of we heard the refrain of "My hubsand/wife/parents/insert your phrase here just does not understand my needs and desires." While I do feel that SL and other programs allows for the harmless exploration of these desires, I would also agrue for sitting down and discussing face to face these needs with your parents or significant other.

Or the fact that sometimes it's easier to express something to someone 1000 miles away that you may never meet because they are just a bunch of pixels on the screen. But the person sitting behind the keys is a real, live thinking person who is going through the same things you are. That connectedness can not be tossed aside.

In the end though, Turkle details the ways technology has redefined our perceptions of intimacy and solitude—and warns of the perils of embracing such pseudo relationships in place of lasting emotional connections. It's a good warning and her concern about our children is well founded. Without offering a solution however in the end all you have is an empty warning, the tech we use is only going to grow and integrate itself more and more into our lives and that my friend is reason to be concerned.

Try this at home or "so you wanna be a kajira"

2011-03-04T02:35:00.000-05:00

We all find our way for a variety of reasons. Some of us are attracted to the stories, the wealth of role play that John Norman's creation affords us. Still others are attracted to the Master/slave dynamic. Still others find it an interesting and safe avenue to explore their desires to either lord over someone, or be at someones feet. Which for what ever reason they are unable or unwilling to explore in their day to day lives. It is that last group, and in particular the slave, that I wish to discuss today.

In my journeys though out Second Life I have heard again and again the same lament. My boyfriend/husband/significant other does not/will understand my need to explore my submissive side. So they start to explore this need via virtual reality programs like SL or via "relationship" sites like Collar Me, and the much superior Fet Life - where at least you can learn something.

I personally see no harm in this. However I have always argued that unless you experience some of these things in reality, you have no idea what it feels like. Your reactions will be much more realistic in the game if your mind has an idea of what it would be liked to be flogged. To be tied up or to be forced to do things. This little article is not geared towards those of us in the lifestyle (Gorean or otherwise) but towards those that are "newbie's" to BDSM.

Some of these little exercises may make you smile, but each is designed to "give you a taste" of what a slave on Gor may have experienced in their day to day lives.

1) Practice the Slave positions in front of a mirror. - A full length mirror if at all possible. Posture is very important and understanding how it feels in these positions, and what it might feel like to be observed in these positions, can serve as a powerful tool to not only help you become a better role player, but in other ways as well. I do understand that in reality, you may not be the big breasted hot super model that all kajira are and may have some difficulty with these positions. Modify them if needed to your needs. The idea is how they make you look and feel! Not how many hours you can stay on your knees.

2) Get a collar - It does not have to be a big heavy metal collar. It does not even have to be a collar at all, just something that you designate as "your collar." Wear it 24/7. Feel it's weight, and know...know in your heart that you can not take it off. That it separates you from the rest of society by declaring you a slave. Think of it, and yourself when wearing it, that way.

3) Withhold food from yourself/eat off the floor - Food is a very simple way to control someone. The beauty ate it eagerly. She had not known if she was to be fed that day. Sometimes the slave is not fed. This might occur for aesthetic reasons, as, for example, if her measurements, which are generally carefully kept, should minutely depart from her master's conception of her ideal curvatures; sometimes merely to remind her of on whom she depends, totally, for her very life, sometimes as a training or disciplinary measure; sometimes merely to startle or puzzle her. What has she done? She is not told. Has she not been sufficiently pleasing? She is not told. The girl, frightened, anxious, redoubles her efforts to please in all the thousand spheres of her slavery, intellectual, physical and imaginative; no master, it is said, who has not denied his girl food knows her; pleasant indeed are the surprises which such a fellow, who thought thitherto he knew his girl, upon the completion of the simple experiment, receives; the girl's wits are sharpened; she becomes resourceful, helpless, desperate, attentive, inventive; "Feed me, Master," she begs. "Feed me!" at the conclusion of such an experiment, when she is fed, it is always, kneeling naked, from his hand. The lesson is not soon forgotten. Few things so impress the dominance of a male on a woman, and her dependence on him, as his control of her food. This dominance, provided it is absolute, thrills a woman to the core. - Tribesmen of Gor. I would not recommend going without food for more than 24 hours though, and drink lots of water.

Go and buy a dog bowl, it's larger then a normal bowl, and place your food in it. Then eat, on all fours. Don't use your hands and do your best to eat....thinking all the time about your Master standing above you watching....waiting. The books are full of how a slave can be fed, this is an option one can explore in Real Life.

4) Tie an ankle to the bed post and sleep naked on the floor - OK, this might be difficult for most to do. However a kajira was not allowed the luxury of a bed so to be "chained at night" at the foot of the bed can make your slavery that much more real.

5) Be mindful in your acts - In today's modern world it easy not to take pride in something. Learn to take pride in the most simple of acts. Notice the grace and beauty in what it takes to make a glass of tea or cook a steak. Take the time to actually think about what your doing; the placement of your hands, feet and body should be graceful and reflective. Learning how to move is part of a slaves training.

Keep a journal - It sounds simple, yet this is actually one of the hardest things that someone looking to explore their submissive side can do. It means opening up to your deepest and darkest desires for someone else to read. The thoughts you express my surprise you. Plus it gives you a way to express those desires to that special someone in your life. If they know what it means to you, they may be more likely to do it to you.

These are only suggestions, how you meet your desires is up to you....but the journey there is full of wonderful surprises.

In memory of Adamark Susenko

2011-02-25T09:18:00.001-05:00

I don't think I ever met him.
I read a few posts of his here and there, probably disagreed with him once or twice on the Gorean forums or similiar forums.

When I woke up this morning I was thinking about definitions. What it means to be "Gorean" or to be considered an expert at something. Lately I've received some very nice comments, both in Second Life and in reality, about this blog that make me uncomfortable. People are looking to this blog for guidance, for information. Although that is the purpose of this blog, I also want people to read the books and discover Gor and its philosophy on their own. To make it their own.

Special thanks to Charlotte Milev

Reading the memorial for Adamark, or Mark as he was known, puts things into perceptive. He was in his early to mid 20's. He suffered from Arthogryposis (gradual self shrinkage of the muscular system, making all muscles underdeveloped), and Scolios. He suffered from kidney stones as well (having had those myself I can not imagine the pain they would have caused him). His life reminds me that mine is pretty easy by comparison.

Yet he was able to touch hundreds of lives, maybe thousands. People praised his mind, his role play ability and his knowledge of Gor. Yet I am also sure they remember the man away from Gor as well. His humor, his bravery and his soul.

Not a bad thing to be remembered for. I don't think I ever met him in Second Life and I feel a bit cheated that I did not. So today, when I log in I will tell those that I look forward to seeing every day that I do care for them. That I hope their real lives are happy and free of pain. That I even love a few of them, that I will miss them then they are gone. My friends are Americans, English, Welsh, Asian, German and Russian. Male and female and furries. Christian, Muslim and stuff in between. Yet we are united by simple pixels on a screen

Thanks Mark, for reminding me what is important in life.

There will be an online memorial in Imperial Ar March 6, Sunday, at 1 p.m. SLT

The price of a human life

2011-02-20T08:40:00.001-05:00

Although I consider myself to be Gorean, the only chance I have to "be Gorean" is in the world of Second Life and similar programs. It's also rare that I manage to find myself in a role play situation where there are dire consequences for the various parties involved.

Let me set the scene for you. I play a vintner and wine merchant in the city of Port Kar. Port Kar was described in the books as a haven for outlaws, pirates and those without honor. Adam Zadeh, my character, has always been a native of Gor. Although he has been going through a bit of a change lately. His appearance has been updated, he has a new attitude as well. Living in Port Kar has made him a bit harder, interested only in the gold that lines his pockets. He is a rich man and enjoys the comforts of life as he owns a bred pleasure slave named Adira.

It's an interesting character to play and recently he was involved in a role play where he was not only negotiating the price of a young untrained slave but also what it meant to be a slave on Gor.

One of the city slaves slipped into our role play in a surprising way. I have to admit that I was a bit annoyed with her at first for doing so, but in the end it fit in perfectly with the role play. As the Free men bartered and argued about the price of the naked and frightened girl named Kira before us, she slipped in and stole what amounted to a cup of wine from me.

She was caught, not by me but by another character and brought before me. I was angry, how dare a slave steal my wine! Then she lied to me about it, claiming that she would never steal, despite being caught red handed and having the smell of alcohol on her breath. Adam coolly entered the other room and returned with some rope. He tossed the ropes to the girls and told them to bind her tightly.
Once bound they were to lift her up and toss her in the canal. This scene was almost directly from Beasts of Gor: "In Port Kar," I said, "a girl who is not pleasing is not unoften bound hand and foot, and thrown naked, as garbage, to the urts in the canals." "I will try to be pleasing," she smiled."

For killing the slave he laid three copper tarsks down on the table before the city administrator. The price of a human life.

In the end, no one actually drown, I told both Adira and Kira to drop her to the deck after I counted to three privately, but the threat was there. Adira emoted that she was shaking uncontrollably, while Kira was white as a ghost perhaps understanding for the first time the value of a slave girl and that the consequences for not being pleasing could be harsh.

It was only later, when I thought about how this scene played out that it occurred to me how cheap a life was on Gor. An insult could result in a cut throat. A wrong look could end in a beating.

A woman needs to be found pleasing, not only in word but in deed, to avoid the threat of the collar or if in the collar, the loss of her life. A man, not only had to be strong in mind but also with his weapons. Gor is a harsh world.

To have her kneel

2011-02-18T14:57:00.002-05:00

Sometimes I come across something, either in a news story, forum or a blog that makes me sit up and take notice. Such was the case in the usually well written and entertaining Thoughts from the Path blog. Her take on kneeling is interesting, although I do wish people would do a little a bit of research before saying things like "She isn't kneeling in obedience because she is unowned [the exception would be Gorean slaves who must kneel before all Free]." Such absolutes have no place in Gor and generally don't apply in the real world either. It's important however to remember that if Gor were a real physical place, it would not have it's kajira kneeling to every free that crossed their path! For nothing would ever get done and knee replacement surgery would be rampant!

I can only speak for myself and why I enjoy having a girl at my feet in nadu. First, lets look at the position itself. Nadu literally means "To kneel" in the books and is described as sitting upon her heels with her back and shoulders straight, her chest is out, the belly in, and her head up, though her eyes are averted to the floor. Her thighs are open, widely spread, her hands rest upon her thighs palms upward. Or downward depending on her openness for sexual use.

Like most things in Gor (and protocol based BDSM), there are reasons for doing the things we do. They may be subtle, they may be not even realized by the parties doing those actions but they have a purpose.
When the Master commands a girl to kneel at his feet he does so for several reasons. To control her of course, the nadu is the most basic of all positions and the starting point for all the positions to follow. She is now at the right height to be leashed. To be praised...or slapped.

Having a girl kneel puts her at a disadvantage, both mentally and physically. Now she would have to take an extra second or two to stand, and if your slave tries bolting for the door that extra second or two allows the Master an advantage over her. Mentally it serves two functions; not only are woman generally shorter than man naturally, but now you have reduced her height even more. Placing her not only below you, but below all free. A reminder of her status.

She is also going to look directly into the male crotch. It is a subtle reminder that the Master must always be pleased with her service and that her body belongs to him.

Harem pants

2011-02-14T18:42:00.002-05:00

Now this is not the traditional Harem pants that we Gorean's think of, however I know many kajira enjoy making their own clothes, and I've postsed such things before.

So here you go: http://www.instructables.com/id/Make-Your-Own-Super-Stylish-Harem-Pants/

The Romantic Gorean

2011-02-09T08:22:00.002-05:00

Its the second week in February and already my designs for the new year have fallen by the wayside, but I am still hopeful of writing 52 plus columns for the blog this year.

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Since it is already the middle of February, I thought I should comment on Valentine's Day. This is not an artificial holiday as many think it is, but in fact has roots going back to the earliest days of the church where it celebrated the martyrdom of a St. Valentine of Rome. Due to a variety of reasons however it was dropped from the Roman Catholic calender and it was not until 1382 that it was linked with Romantic love.

So what does this have to do with Gor and Goreans? Truthfully not much. If any holiday around this time of year would have been celebrated by Goreans (assuming the planet was real of course) it would have been something similar to Lupercalia. A very ancient holiday perhaps even predating Roman civilization, observed on February 13 through 15 to avert evil spirits and purify the city, releasing health and fertility to it's inhabitants.

However we don't live on Gor and thanks to the endless marketing machine that is modern capitalism, we have Valentine's day. This is a day to remind ourselves to thank those that we love and cherish, and as my beloved girlfriend pointed out to me..."some flowers would be nice any day of the week."

She is right. We need to remember that not only our Free Companions need encouragement but also our kajira. Remembering some words of encouragement, snuggling with those you love, remembering that little things like holding the door for them go far in our real lives. Bringing home flowers "just because" can let your real life wife, girlfriend and/or slave know that yes, you do care for them and need them in your life.

Even though you may not have any romantic designs on the girl you own online...the simple phrase "I am proud of you." can echo in your girl's ears for days. Doing something away from Gor such as an OOC dance or a walk on a virtual beach somewhere can encourage a better relationship. Which in turn brings better service and a deeper exploration of the Master/slave relationship.

You can be romantic and still be Gorean. You can still demand excellent service from your slave even though you bring her flowers. We are all thinking and rational human beings behind the keys. We all have hope and dreams and needs that our exploration of Gor, either online or off, is providing for us. Taking a day and saying "Thank you" and "I need you" to the people in our lives will only make us a stronger community in the long run. And a better one.

Yes, the wine is still available!

2011-01-28T09:43:00.000-05:00

As I was on the phone talking to my lovely kajira the other night, she mentioned meeting a couple at the local munch who were not only familiar with this blog, but wanted to buy the wine. I've good news for them. It's still available, just not in the form it was originally intended.

Emerine Estates Winery is the producer. It's called simply Wine and is reasonably priced. Just look for the label similar to the one shown here, and be sure to serve your Master well.

OOC and submission or "SL to RL" - part 3

2011-01-20T08:43:00.003-05:00

It happens to all of us. You start to wonder to think, "What would it be like to truly be a Master/slave?" Gor is more than that of course, it is a philosophy, a lifestyle choice; however the dominant male and submissive female are at the heart of Norman's writings. While Norman's work attracts a large BDSM contingent, you don't have to be "kinky" to be Gorean.

Still though, to be naked and kneeling in front of a man, not just any man but a strong dominant man is a powerful draw for many women. For us men, that power we have over that girl at our feet is like a drug. Once in our system, we become hooked to that need to control and conquer.

For someone new however, that need or want to be on either end of the leash can be daunting. While it may be possible to find those in SL Gor that can lead you down that path, there are resources both in and out of Second Life that can assist you.

Let's start with some simple tools outside of SL. The Gorean forums have many that blend RL and SL together. Fetlife is a wonderful BDSM forum site that is open to all. If you wish to just keep your kink on SL to the more public displays of where to find a party or a munch (an informal meeting in a non-threatening atmosphere of like minded people). Generally speaking these munches range in topics and may or may not have a theme. While I can not vouch for it's current accuracy, the BDSM resource guide has a listing of munches by state. Another similar site (and updated in Jan 2011) is Darkheart.com. They have a rather extensive list of munches by state. Even if you only intend to keep your kink online, I highly recommend getting out to meet others...as it's a wonderful resource to learn from and you will discover that the emotions you are feeling online are shared by those of us that practice this stuff in the real world to. Knowing your not alone is a great relief for many.

I do not recommend dating sites like alt.com or collar me. They are dating sites and not only attract "trolls" but may not contain inaccurate or unsafe information.

Reading works as well, I've already included some good links in this blog for online resources. However books such as "The Topping Book" and "the bottoming book" are good places to start. Anything by Jay Wiseman is good as well.

In world, there are various groups that cater to BDSM/Gor. I generally don't recommend the various slave auction houses for a variety of reasons, but you may meet RL submissives that can help you on your journey there. The best and most active group for information in the world of second life has to be the BDSM Forum. They have a variety of online discussions, meetings and demo's and are open to all sexual orientations and avatars. Forceme Silverspar, whose blog I link to, also conducts various classes and workshops and runs a online discussion group.

In the end though, the journey that a person makes is there own. Exactly how far will they wish to take their desires is up to them. Perhaps it will lead to phone calls and cams, perhaps not. Maybe you will feel the desire to nadu in front of a mirror and write a email to your Master about what you felt. Or tie an ankle to the bedpost to feel "chained" at night. Who knows what will happen?

The important thing to remember is always be safe. Always look for resources and always, always communicate.

OOC and real life submission - The Rant Part Two

2011-01-18T09:22:00.001-05:00

Last week I went off topic a bit. I was going to reply to an IM sent to me and that turned into a rant about what I thought was wrong with Gor on Second Life. My experiences on Gor have been poor lately and that's possibly because I want to hold the role players to a higher standard. Just because I've read most of the books and am a fan of history, does not mean every one else has.

I also know that there are many good Goreans that have never read any of Norman's books. (as a side note, they are available for the Kindle) Yet they are excellent role players because they seek out older Goreans and learn from them.

None of this has anything to do with Linnet's IM by the way. It was me ranting and raving and for that I am truly sorry and I promise I will get to her topic next. However I promised possible solutions, so I'll begin.

At one time I proposed a "True Gor" concept, where each of several cities followed standardized rules and required their citizens to take a standardized knowledge test. I also suggested a "pay to play" concept to help defray costs of maintaining a Sim, plus if your financially invested in something you wish it to succeed.

A more reasonable slave outfit

I'm going to modify that somewhat. I still believe in the standardized testing. This would be a general knowledge test on Free Woman, Free Men and the role of slaves in Gorean society. There are some battles I've given up on, for example, a slave wearing silks in public is just not going to change. No matter how illogical it may be!

In the rules of the city you need to state clearly what is expected and have some form of electronic signature. If your going to allow Panthers to raid, then fine but have them raid a small outlaying village, not a big city with huge walls and a moat! Just because there are only 7 People on that Sim does not mean that only 7 people built the huge city. No you have to pretend there could be hundreds or even thousands about. Would a tribe of 10 Panther girls stand a chance against a city of 1000? 100?

No. Of course not. Besides RP can be more than endless battles. How about trade at a trading point? Or hunting? Or Panthers seeking mates?

Gorean society was caste driven. Having note cards ready to give to someone about their choosen caste may help them in determing how to act and think A good place to start is "The Libary of Gorean Knowledge"

Understanding the concepts of "home stone" and castes will also make it easier to attract Free Women. Once you stop looking at them as "just slaves waiting for the collar" and more as your family, friends and fellow countrymen your more likely to protect them. That is turn creates better role play oppurtunities!

While slavers often have classes for their lovely property on everything from bathing to serving wine, no such classes exist for the Gorean male. I've been a strong advocate of them. Requiring all free men to attend a class not only makes sense but would reinforence what your trying to accomplish.

Are you looking to have your city by raided and at war? Then teach each citizen how to handle a bow or sword. Make sure that each warrior is familiar with the laws of the city, so when "Invalid" is cried...and it will be cried out, you have a unified front.

This will take great planning and time on the part of the city's administors and scribes. However I feel that the guidelines that I'm laying down here will result in less OOC and drama. Playing within strict guidelines is not desirable in that you will have to turn away many potential citizens...but the quality of those that want to put in the time and energy to read, to study will surly make up for that.

OOC and RL submission - Part one.

2011-01-13T08:10:00.001-05:00

Recently I was sent a private IM asking me to read over and comment on the following. So I would like to thank the original author, a lovely kajira known as Pancake/linnett for thinking so highly of me. The original post, which appeared on the Gorean Forums, is below.

When I started in SL Gor it was relatively easy and common to find people talking about OOC submission and even a few living some version of the lifestyle RL. You saw it on profiles, you heard about it in group chat and at OOC dances, you read about it on forums and there were several really good personal blogs by SL Goreans.

I vividly recall many helpful threads and discussions in the first version of the forums about journaling for your Master, about meeting him RL for the first time and the aftermath of that, about how to handle various feelings of separation anxiety when you log off, and the self doubt about the validity of this type of submission and how to make it more real. Whether it was online and OOC, all the way to living some flavor of the lifestyle part time or full time, it was easy enough to find people to talk to and resources. There were couples who were openly known to have gone from SL to RL.
Now? Not so much.
There are many men and women who were very helpful to me just by being able to read their contributions in their blogs and forums, others have listened knowingly and given advice as I’ve found myself in various situations and traveled this often bumpy road. I’m pretty sure those same people are still out there, but many tend not to talk about it as much publicly any more. They may have stopped blogging or participating in forums, or perhaps they’ve quit Gor, or they’ve just chosen to become more private, I don’t I blame them, but as a resource they are missed.
I can’t imagine what it would be like now, newly joining Gor, realizing that it’s tingling all these parts of you that are new and scary and not knowing if anyone else has ever been there. I shudder at the thought of embarking on your first OOC submission without being able to ask for advice or talk to others who have been there, or even just able to bounce in circles and squeel about it with others who know how it feels.
The reverse? Ending an OOC or RL submission and not having resources to help or people to talk to? That thought is bothersome enough to prompt me to write this thread.

Master of my Domain

I haven’t been on the other side of the leash, but I can imagine there are some new to that role who could use some advice and people to talk to as well.
So in an attempt to create a place for this, if anyone has any suggestions for books or websites, or want to offer their names as a sounding board, feel free to add them here.
I won’t “out” anyone or their blogs, that’s not for me to do, but I can offer up my name (Linnet Foggarty) if there is anyone who is looking for someone to talk to about these things. I’m not in world that often anymore, so you can PM me here and I can give you an email address. I’d also suggest Fetlife as a resource for just about anything you can think of. Even things you’ve never heard of! LOL
I’m no expert and not a lifestyler, not at all. However I’ve had a couple IC collars that blended with OOC submissions as a result of SL Gor, my current one I’m over a year into now. I’m also an avid RP’er and story teller, my avatars are characters when I’m in an RP sim but I do have OOC as well. I do both. I may not have good advice or helpful suggestions, but I do have a pretty good shoulder to lean on and my ears are my best feature. I’ve also made almost every dumb mistake you can think of in this environment so chances are, I’ve been there.

I never did reply to the post on the Forums but have decided to answer this post in two parts. The first is a bit of a rant on my part, on why I think many of the traditional or "Lifestylers" have left SL Gor.

The topic is a good one and Gor, particularly online Gor, draws a lot of newbi's to the BDSM lifestyle. Sadly it also seems that to many of them latch on to a particular note card or onlineism and assume it is gospel. They may have heard of the books and read one or two....but they don't seem to actually "read" the books. Norman is not a great author to be sure, but he is subtle and knows the submissive mind better than most (many actually think he may be submissive in RL, but that's another topic).

Case in point. I owned a slave at one time who, with my permission, was allowed to wander Gor if I was not about. She was smart, understood her role and was often able to talk her way out of trouble. She tended to enjoy getting into trouble but that's another story.

So I am working on a project when I get an IM. It seems that in serving some man, he offered food to her...which she ate out of his hand. Seems she now belonged to him despite her protests. It took me, an administrator and several quotes to make him understand why that quote about eating food out of man's hand did not apply to property all ready. Recently a current slave I own told me a similar story.

Some four, going on five, years ago when I first discovered Second Life it was a lot easier to guide people towards resources. There were fewer of us and we had stronger communities. Today it seems most wish to hang out in the Gorean Hub instead of actually role playing.

I have also been an advocate for "Master's class" for some time. Gor is more than getting served drinks, or endless raids and furring. Yet, again I find that most men on Gor seem to believe it is just that. I see no reason why such a class in not a requirement. I've even volunteered to teach it on more than one occasion.

Bath girls

We would cover such things as "OOC - when and where to use it correctly", "Honor", "Treating the slave as a slave (while still respecting the person behind the keys"). Sadly while the slaves run off to classes on Dance, Bathing, and Serving the men really have no clue what it means to own another human being...or act Gorean.

Case in point...I received lousy service from a kajirus. He basically tossed the food and paga down in front of me. I chastised him, basically telling him that even though I was not his Master I was still a free man and worthy of some respect. I ordered him to reserve me with the respect deserved of a Free Man. His Master, who was ignoring us and playing around with some fish that swam about his head, accused me of rudeness...then took his slave and went home.

To the slaves credit, he took it in the spirit in which it was meant and reserved me...being a bit more defertaial. He did not serve me as a slave girl would, which was fine by me, but it still was a better serve then his first attempt.

When faced with these and similiar challenges day after day I think it grinds down the lifestylers such as myself. We love Gor, believe in Gor and want to introduce Gor to the masses. For every one or two people that want to take the time and learn, to become a better Master or slave however there are fifty out there that just want to fight or fuck or cause some type of trouble.

I know I've left online Gor a few times because of this and I'm considering it again. What keeps me coming back though is that chance to reach the one or two people that want to learn. I know they are out there. I started this blog to reach them. I hope I do.

Next: Some solutions.

Sounds familiar?

2011-01-03T12:05:00.000-05:00

Normally I would not post two things in one day...but this is to good to let go.

You can read the original comic here.

A resolution and a comment

2011-01-03T08:51:00.001-05:00

Well the wheel has turned and once again we find ourselves at the beginning of a new year. I have made myself two resolutions this year, one I will try to keep and the other will most likely be broken sooner than later.

I'll let you decide which I'm promising to keep:
1) I plan on writing at least 52 articles for my blog this year. I hope to actually write at least 6 per month.

2) Master needs to lose some weight. Way to much cheese and fruit at all the wine functions he has to attend.

I also thought I would start the new year off right and comment on something which I've noticed as dominated the forums and various blog sites lately. Fashion for the well dressed kajira.

From Elle's wonderful blog.

Norman mentioned the pleasure silks, the Camsik and now, in Swordsmen of Gor, what a slave would wear in winter. From Swordsmen we have this quote: "The slaves were now warmly garmented, though not, of course, as might have been free women. The robes of concealment in winter are much like those of gentler weathers, save for darker colors, more absorptive of, and retentive of, heat, heavier materials, some additional layering, and such. In the case of the slave, a short, long-sleeved jacket, coming high on the hips, its length resembling that of a slave tunic, is worn over an undershirt. They are also put in trousers, belted with binding fiber. Whereas in the case of the free woman her legs are concealed within her enclosing garmenture, in the case of the slave, even in the winter, it is clear, however warmly they may be clothed, that she has legs, and that this is to be obvious to the scrutiny of men. The wrappings of the legs and calves is wool, over which leather is wrapped. The last garment is a warm, hooded cloak, which may be held closely about the body. Her face is commonly bared, except in severe weather, and, in any case, there is no mistaking her status, given her garmenture…Their collars, of course, even in the winter, are kept on the slaves. They remain collared. They are slaves.”

Finally some common sense is being used. Something which seems in short supply on Gor. I've often wondered why Norman had his girls running around barefoot in all types of weather. Clad in silks, which is all you ever see a girl in the virtual worlds, not that most men mind of course. A girl clad with just enough showing to want you to desire more is a wonderful thing and that just answered my question.

A camisk - “{A} rectangle of cloth, with a hole cut for the head, rather like a poncho. The edges are commonly folded and stitched to prevent raveling. The camisk, I am told, normally falls to the knees...The camisk, I am told, was at one time commonly belted with a chain. However, the camisks that I have personally seen, and those we were given, were belted with a long, thin strap of leather binding fiber. This passes once around the body, and then again, and then is tied, snugly, over the right hip....The belt of binding fiber not only makes it easier to adjust the camisk to a given girl, but of course, the binding fiber serves to remind her that she is in bondage. In a moment it may be removed, and she may be secured with it, leashed, or bound hand and foot....The camisk, in its way, is an incredibly attractive garment. It displays the girl, but provocatively. Moreover, it proclaims her slave, and begs to be torn away by the hand of the master. Men thrill to see a girl in a camisk." - Captive of Gor - at least makes a bit more sense during the warmer months. Being of a cheap and course material it would wear well, be easy to clean and replace when needed. It's a better and more logical design for what a slave would wear day to day on a primitive world.

Silks, despite their attractive nature and wonderful soft textures....are not designed for dusty streets and rough environments, they served best in the bed chambers and the arms of their Master's, not the ugly outside world.

Common sense in general seems to be missing from the world of Gor these days. Then again it is only a work of fiction and to many of the role players in Second Life and other virtual worlds have not read the books, or have latched on to a quote that may be out of context. I've spoken about context before and really do wish that people would stop living out their fantasy sex lives and think of Gor more as a breathing living thing. I bet their real sex lives would improve as well.

OK...rant over, Happy New Year!

Violence against women....

2010-12-29T09:34:00.002-05:00

Recently a story on the CNN website dealt with violence against woman. First off let me state that I am neither defending or promoting violence against any woman. Violence against women in either RL or SL will not and should not be tolerated.

As a Gorean and as someone interested in BDSM, I find myself sensitive to articles like this. After all, as a "kinky bastard" I do act violently against women in some ways. Of course what I do is consenual, and what the author is speaking about is non-consenual violence. Which should never be tolerated.

Although I largely agree with the author and his conclusions, I find myself in slight disagreement with the causes. In the article there are three key aspects of what the author calls male socialization that are the foundation of men's violence against women:

• Men viewing women as "less than;"
• Men treating women as property;
• Men viewing women as objects.

Not that I disagree with his conclusions, but is it society? This "Male Socialization"? Or something deeper, much more primitive? Something in our genetic code?

Again let me state that I'm not a sexist. A woman has every right to follow her hearts desire, should make as much money as a man and be given the same opportunities in education and life. They are not "less than" men....just different.

Yes it's that simple, woman are different. They think differently, act differently, have a different brain structure and function then men. That does not make them better or worse than us men, just different.

For millions of years we men and woman have acted in different ways according to our nature, men hunted the story goes....women stayed behind and cared for the children. When we tell a boy not to cry, we are basically saying to our old stone age selves "Don't cry and give our position away to the prey or another predator."

The hyper masculinity that same men feel is due to this ancient instinct. To hunt, to conquer. Men prove themselves to other men, and women through sport and combat. We wrestle, fight, play violent sports because we have an innate desire to became a strong hunter and provider. A strong hunter will not only provide meat, but hopefully bear strong offspring as well. In other words, women are separate...outside of that box because they are women. Our desires to mate with the strongest goes both ways....it's simple Darwinism in it's most simplest form.

Women as property is not biology, but culture. Ever since someone planted the first seed in the ground it seemed obvious. We have seeds. We plow the earth, and a woman's sexual organs must have seen like the earth to early man. When a man orgasms, it's pretty obvious what happens...where as modern science is still not sure why a woman has an orgasm, other than perhaps to entice her to have more sex.

You have sex with a woman, she bears a child from your seed. That child is yours, it looks like you. That woman then becomes yours too, since she bore your child and accepted your seed. If it seems simple that is because it is.

We see that patten again and again in the ancient world. The rules in Ancient Greece to Rome to Egypt. In Japan and China. The terms may change, marriage evolved and changed as the society became more modern but the rules and traditions of societies thousands of years ago can still be seen today. The modern wedding ring is directly related to the age old tradition of handfasting. A woman takes her husbands last name, because at one time she belonged to him; literally.

Are women objects or treated as such? Yes. I'm not sure where and when this trait started or way, but only that it continues today and is directly related to "woman as property." Even the language we use, and I've heard this from both sexes, indicates that somewhere deep in our reptilian brains woman are objects. We "make love to" women, as if they were not a active participate. We "nail", "plow", "hammer", "thrust", "had", "take", "screw" and a thousand and one other verbs to describe the act of intercourse.

I'm sure that in the ancient world of Rome, Babylon and perhaps even before that the woman were seen as objects. Not that this is a bad thing, biology has created something wonderful called the woman to nurse and bear children. To be a joy and a comfort for a man. To be wonderful.
Sometimes objects are prized, cared for and yes, even loved. To be protected and respected.

Our societies may change, but no amount of history compared to the millions of years of evolution it took for us to develop the capacity to even talk about this. Violence against women should not happen, and again I want to stress that is should not be tolerated in either Second Life or the Real World.

We can educate ourselves and others as much as we like, but the primative mind...will take millions of years to change. Without understanding that...we are just spitting in the wind.

Of course this is just my opinions and semi-educated guesses. Hate mail can be directed to me here.

How to find a women's shelter.

Search Amazon.com for violence against women

How much control?

2010-12-23T09:00:00.001-05:00

"My main problem with Gor (in rl) is...oddly enough...love. Yes, a slave has a choice to become a slave, but once done, her choices are gone. When I serve, I find myself renewing my choice every day. Why do the dishes? I dont' HAVE to...I do out of love and service. To please. A slave does not have that choice."

And from a friend of mine that is looking for a RL Master:

"You will nadu before me the first time we meet." "Um, I think that look very silly in a restaurant Master"

"Tal because you do not have jarl you will serve me." Overheard in the Gor Hub

"I have a dear friend who has been Gorean for years. When her Master released her in SL (but was still her rl lover!) she literally broke down. Almost lost her rl job..could not function. That collar was more important than the relationship."

"Few Masters understand "I have to go..my son needs dinner". It is why I am unowned."

Over the last few days I've been talking to friends of mine, both male and female, about what it means to submit and to be a slave. We have laughed over some of the things said to them by their would be owners. Cried over some of it as well.

One could argue that in Real Life, the Master would have absolute control over his slave. That her friends, finances, even her communicating with family could and should be controlled by him. This I must admit has always seemed a little extreme to me, and while I do not have much experience in owning a real life slave...it seems to me that part of my job as her owner would be to ensure that she not only accepts her chosen lot but is happy in it.

Like it or not, their are going to be commitments outside of serving the Master. She may have kids...those kids are going to need to eat, to get off to school on time. She may have a job that requires her to be gone from 8 AM to 5 PM every day and yes, she is going to get sick sometimes or just have a bad day.

The question is, for me at least....when should you excerpt control, when you you pull back? When does having control over another life become abuse? You have to support and care for your girls it's true. You have the right to beat them, to demand excellent service after all they are just property. But to much control can strangle her in her collar; to little and she slips from it. Stories about a kajria getting to close to a abusive Master are rampant. Some have even gone as far to change their phone numbers to avoid a Master. The rumor goes that more than one girl has had to change her address because of an abusive relationship with her Master.

A Gorean kajira is an animal. She is owned property...she is also a real live living being who has decided....yes, decided to kneel naked and exposed at your feet. That slave is there because she choose to be a slave. As much as we like to pretend....you did not buy her at an auction down the block and around the corner.

"Submission is a gift." is probably the most overused phrase in the BDSM world. Yet it is also the truest. That naked kajira, quivering in front of you is there because she wishes to be...she should be quivering in excitement, fear and anticipation of what her Master has planned. Not afraid of you, but respectful of your power over her.

"Happy Family" by apocalypticatsuko

A good Master will know that control his kajira involves more than just the whip, the fist and the threat of more punishment. The toolbox available to him is much more diverse than that.

If the Master is paying attention, holding his slave's attention with love, honor and respect....then he is worthy of the term. Other wise he is just an abusive asshole....and the world has enough of them all ready.

The Blog list is growing!

2010-12-16T10:25:00.000-05:00

A few days ago i complained about the lack of Gorean blogs on the Gorean Forums site, or that most of them that I could find are geared towards fashion. This being a Second Life oriented website, most of the blogs I was told about were geared towards SL.

Not that I've an issue with that. I truly believe that a we can learn from the experience we have in our virtual existence and use that knowledge in our Real day to day lives, and vice versa. That the characters we play are just extensions of ourselves and express some deep seated needs or desires.

To deep? Yea, I thought so too.

But my point is that the response to my request for Gorean blogs has been impressive. Please keep them coming!

I've created a page simply entitled Blog Links and other Interesting Things (clever title eh?) whose soul purpose is to provide you a link to these blogs.

The rules are simple. The blog must be related to Gor in some way (either dealing with your experiences as a real life Gorean or on Second Life), and updated pretty regularly (at least once every 30 days).

Forums, discussion boards and other types of things are also welcome as long as they meet those two simple requirements.

Happy Blogging!

The growing influence of Gor....and why it matters.

2010-12-12T12:37:00.001-05:00

I came across an article recently from the publisher of e-reads.   If your not familiar with them they are are the current publishers of John Norman's Gor books.   Including the newest Swordsman of Gor.

What's interesting to me about this article is that they predicted that there are 50,000 Gorean role players just on a virtual reality program like Second Life. That number may include "alts", it does not say. What is also very interesting is that this little company approached John Norman first...because they realized that there was a market for his books.   Because of role players on IRC channels, yahoo, SL and others.   Because despite the male domination-female slavery accepts of the books that they are best known for...many woman willingly took on the role of a kajira.

The article goes on to approach the books as wonderful fodder for RP. How the fans designed the worlds for other fans and then started to promote their own economy and clothing designs.  How, if some some way it became part of the engine that drives the SL economy.

That may well be true, and I've little doubt that many of the clothing designers and merchants that have the word "Gor" or "Gorean" have no clue exactly what that word means.   Only that it makes money for them. Hell, even I tried to introduce a RL product to the online Gorean world.

Recently Gor became a category all it's own on the SL marketplace boards. Showing that this form of role play is not only popular, but economically sound.

What however does this all mean for those of us that consider ourselves Gorean in the Real World? Well what it means is that the more people are exposed to the concepts of Gor, and BDSM, the less these ideas seem threatening. The more they become part and parcel of the average person's worldview.

Well the concepts of honor, integrity and living close to nature are as old as the dirt we trod upon, they will seem like new ideas to some. A precious few will incorporate these concepts into their daily lives.

Even fewer will look around and say..."I can do with less." But a few will, this is the next generation of Goreans, the younger men and woman who will learn Gor and Gorean ways online.

Perhaps they will internalize these things Goreans believe in. That gives me hope, for Gor is not about slavery...nor raiding...nor sex. It is about living true to yourself and your nature. Honor, Integrity and simplicity. Not a bad thing to hope for in the future.

Are my goals to high?

2010-12-10T06:20:00.000-05:00

Do to a variety of reasons my attempts to live a Gorean life are fraught with difficulties. I consider myself Gorean in real life, I try to live with honor and within what are, for lack of a better word, my own personal caste codes.

Due to a variety of reasons I am no longer active in the greater BDSM scene as I once was. This part of my personality...this need...can only be satisfied online for now, although I do hope to return to it soon.

When it comes to playing online, I totally submerse my self into the world I inhabit. Online Gor has it's own logic, it's own rules and although it may not be what Norman pictured it is a reasonable representation. Or as close as this mortal may ever get to a fictional planet. In my four plus years of being on SL Gor I've owned some wonderful kajira. Women who have made me laugh, cry, want to hold them in strong arms because they were hurting....who have broke my heart.

When I returned to role playing on Gor after a extended absence, I decided not to own a girl until I found my mythical unicorn.

I have thought about what I have wanted. I also have referred many potential Masters and slaves to the wonderful Gorean Living website and her take on what to be a Master and slave means.

I am demanding a lot then. A total commitment to an ideal, while the collar may be virtual I want her to literally feel it across her slim and pretty neck. It occurs to me that I may be asking to much.

In our Western culture, woman grow up and are taught to be very independent and free thinking. This is not a bad thing, and even though independence and freedom of thought are great things to have in a kajira, she must also realize when it's time to pull back and be the little submissive that I want. Something which is more difficult for some than it is others.

Gor also attracts a strong BDSM oriented group but the experiences and culture are fundamentally different...they are kissing cousins it's true, but total immersion into the Gorean experience means putting aside some basic and long held BDSM beliefs. Even if it is "just online".

I currently do not own a kajira, although I think I will soon. Owning a woman is not what makes you Gorean, but I do believe it's part of the overall Gorean experience. It's not that I'm lowering my standards in what I am searching for, but because I've began to realize that the unicorn may be all around me, hidden in the depths.

Swordsmen of Gor

2010-12-03T07:41:00.002-05:00

While the long awaited Swordsman of Gor has just been released a few days ago! Just in time for Christmas or what ever holiday you and yours celebrate.

I've personally not purchased this book (YET!) but hope to have a review up of it done by a lovely friend of mine in a few days. Some hints however, it finally involves Asian culture and the evidence seems to be growing that the man himself is no longer writing the books (who may be however remains a mystery)!

More than one careful reader has pointed out things that just don't seem to be Norman's writing, but the man is in his late 70's so I'm sure he had help somewhere.

While waiting on the review you can purchase the novel at Norman's semi - official site or perhaps even read some of his previous unknown stories and philosophical tracts.

Also of interest is that Norman's semi-official site is looking for your screen shots of your adventures on Second Life Gor or other virtual reality programs. It's been speculated that Norman was at least aware of SL Gor although if he's ever interacted with those of use that use the program is still debatable.

The hope is to create a "Christmas Card" for John Norman giving him an idea of the millions of lives his books have touched. You can read more about that project here and the the Gorean forums.

It's the most wonderful time of the year.

2010-11-29T08:06:00.003-05:00

I've no evidence that the Goreans in John Norman's books exchanged gifts at any time of the season. Nor did they celebrate anything approaching Christmas, however I'm willing to bet that the majority of you do.

So I would be remiss to let the holiday go without mentioning a few Gorean oriented gifts for that wonderful Master or favored kajira. Lets start with the most obvious of course...the works of John Norman himself. Amazon either carries or can obtain the books, in most cases for under Twenty dollars (US). Search Amazon.com for gor series by john norman

The wine that started it all!

This blog was originally to promote a wine that was inspired by the works of John Norman, and even though I've since ended my relationship with that winery, I still highly recommend their products. The wine in question is now called "Wine."

Emerine Estates makes a variety of different fruit based wines that frankly are surprising and fun to drink. Again most of the bottles can be bought for under Thirty Dollars ($30 US). They can ship all over the US and Canada.

I also highly recommend Fencer of Minerva, a anime series that is Gorean in spirit if not in word. It's usually spilt into two movies, "Emergence" and "Tempest". Sadly these seem only to be available on VHS via Amazon but I know they can be rented from Netflix. If your able to either find them on DVD or another device, I highly recommend you do. I have linked to the Amazon site below.

Of course, if the Master wishes for something a bit different...a collar perhaps. Or a whip to keep his girl in shape? I do highly suggest going to your local BDSM munch group and asking around for a local artisan who specializes in that sort of thing. But for those of you that rather buy online then "The Hush Store" is a good a place as any.

For the lovely kajira once again I highly recommend the books. In my humble opinion Kajira of Gor was Norman's best work. Why not please him with learing how to bellydance as well? Search Amazon.com for bellydance

Or even make a gift of yourself by wearing your homemade camsik?

For those of you that are Gorean on Second Life or associated programs, I do highly recommend reading the books of course, but I can not recommend any particular builder or designer. I've also included a link to Polyamory below because as these programs develop, we will have to work on our real world releationships.

Also in the interest of honesty, in case you've not figured it out yet...I am a Amazon Associate. So yes, I will receive a small stipend if you buy from them (and yes, I could use the cash!) However your always welcome to use other resources as well. If your able to find a link to the books, or a wonderful "toy" website, let me know and I'll be happy to link it to mine.

Happy Holidays!

Search Amazon.com for polyamory